Crying On The Inside & Out... TTC

Question

EVERYDAY I HURT DEEPER AND DEEPER BECAUSE I JUST WANT TO BE A MOMMY..I'M TRYING SO HARD WHY CANT I GET PREGNANT. WHAT IM I DOING WRONG. OMG IM SO UPSET I JUST WANT TO SCREAM. I WAS ON THE DEPO SHOT BUT THE DOCTOR SAID MY BODY IS BACK TO NORMAL BECAUSE I HAVE A REGULAR CYCLE(EVERY 31DAYS). WHY CANT I GET MY HEART DESIRES.

Answer 1

 Please remove the post above by 'Eyitemi Taire'. I never wrote this. Who us impersonating me on your website?

Answer 2

Take a deep breath and calm down. The stress you're putting yourself through will not help matters any. Patience is what you need. Sometimes it can take a few years and this is something you have very little control over (besides reducing your stress) so settle down and get busier with other things so you're not thinking about this all the time. It sounds like you are focusing on this to the point that you are losing perspective. That's not good for you.  

Answer 3

i feel you i finally got pregnant september 2007 i was super excited. i went to the doctor november 7 2007 they said i was 7-8 weeks pregnant then on dec 2,2007 i got really sick and went to the er on the 3rd i was to be 12 weeks and the doctor came in after an ultrasound and said your babys heart stopped at 7 weeks i carried my dead baby for 6 weeks before i had the d&c done and since then all i ever wanted was a baby i try and try and try. i am asking my doctor bout clomid next week, but good luck to you  

Answer 4

Hey I understand I'm in the same boat . I think they need to get rid of the depo shot or tell girls you may not ever be able to get pregnant . I took the shot 3 times and I'm only 20 years old and my and my husband are still trying for another after 3 years , And everything checks out fine for both of us . ... Every time I get my period I get depressed because again I failed to conceive .... I think the shot is horrible , I will NEVER  recommend it to anyone! But I'm sure u have tried everything their is to do.... Just hang in their if your meant to have a baby it will happen that's what I keep telling myself.  

Answer 5

I am assuming that since you have been on deprovera that you have no other fertility problems.    Part of the problem is that you are 'trying' too hard. Just relax and enjoy. You will get pregnant when you are supposed to.  

Answer 6

I under stand how you feel...I was hoping not to get my period..but guess what I got it...I reallyy DOWN right now, More then i i have felt before!!! I have been trying for so long...I was on the depo shot for about 4 years and i have been off of it since 2005 and they say you have to wait about 24months and i am past my 24months...And i still cant have a babyy....I am upset that all these lil gurls and people who dont even want a babyy end up having a child...So i am on the same boat as you!!!!! But i hope it happens for you soon!!!!!

Answer 7

you might just need to relax, calm down or just get a way for a while and trust me stressing out hurts your chances of getting pregnant. Do things that help get your mind of things like yoga. good luck and baby dust to you.  

Answer 8

Here is something I read that helps me; maybe it will help you.

If someone told you that you would get what you want in a year, you would probably relax and enjoy that year.

If someone told you that you would NEVER get what you want, you would probably relax and try to find other things to make you happy.

This has comforted me through trying to get a novel published (anyone who is reading this, DO NOT try to shop around a novel AND conceive a baby; you will lose your mind) and numerous lousy boyfriends.

Concentrate on the parts you can control: Doctor visits. Fertility tests. Taking care of your body. Learning about your cycle--charting, ovulation sticks, etc. Remember to breathe and find reasons to be happy every day. Trust that you will have the family you're supposed to, when you're supposed to have it.

I know how hard it is. I have been TTC for 16 months and am taking this month off because I'm having uterine polyps removed in a week. Aside from occasional panic of wasting time, it's actually nice to have a little break. Take care and be well.

Answer 9

I am in the same situation!

I was on Depo for years and ttc for 2 after that! All tests came back normal. I am starting on Clomid this month.

Have you had an HSG x-ray done?

HSG is an x-ray where the doctor injects a dye into your cervix to see f you have any blockage in your tubes. If you just have some small blockage, lots of times the procedure itself clears it up. Many women are able to conceive after that. Unfortunately, it was not my case.

I agree that Depo sucks big time!

If I knew it would s***w up mu body this much I would never had taken it.

But again, everybody is different. My coworker was off Depo for only 2 months and got pregnant.

I also cry a lot and dream of the day my hpt will show "PREGNANT".

Good luck to you!!!

  

Answer 10

I want to ask you if your doctor checked to see if everything was alright for you to get pregnant? If your doc did and said yes you can get pregnant, you may need to just keep trying because those depo shots do numbers over on some women. Just keep trying and praying and I am sure it will happen. It happened to my sister in law after she got off the depo shot. It took a little while but it did happen. Don't worry.

Answer 11

i'm praying for you, i know how bad it hurts, and i don't have the answers for you, just know that you are not alone.  it took me a while, but i was blessed, and i hope you will be soon also.  my prayers and thoughts are with you!

Answer 12

I know exactly how you feel...I hate ttc...I hate that I have endometriosis...I hate getting my period and I hate that I live in Quebec where there is currently a mini "baby-boom" (due to changes in the government parental insurance women get a year off work paid so everyone is making babies!)...it seems like I'm a magnet for pregnant women...not to mention that I'm an elementary school teacher and am around kids all the time.

My period is due in about 2 days and i just know that it's going to show up...I have absolutely no hope that this month it will happen...

Wish I knew how to make you feel better but all I can say is like the others I am with you and you aren't alone.