I asked a question a few days back pertaining to this but the situation has changed. It seems that every time I am near my wife's sister and her husband they feel the need to insult me. Usually it's not directly but instead it's something like college graduates are really stupid (neither of them are grads but both me and my wife are) or treating me like a child. Anyway, it is very bothersome behavior on their part. I have put up with it for quite some time now at nearly every family gathering my wife's family has--which happens to be alot. I have talked to my wife about it and until recently when we got into an argument about it she swept it under the rug. The day we got into an argument she wrote an e-mail to her sister telling her that I have felt offended by their recent behavior and we should all sit down to clear the air. He sister refused saying that it would only turn into an argument. I was curious because if I was feeling offended by their behavior and basically avoiding them at family functions how could something that I said have offended them thus they think a simple talk would turn into an argument. It turns out that my wife wasn't telling me the whole story. It turns out that about a year ago I apparently offended them without knowing I did by saying that I thought that people with college degrees had an advantage over those that didn't have one. I don't recall sayging that because ever since I have known them I have known that they are super sensitive so even if I felt that way I never would have said it around them. I''m sure of that. Well it turns out that the whole reason that they're mad is that I supposedly made this comment which they didn't agree with and now they have been trying to belittle me since. They don't want to talk and my wife seems to be tired of me asking her to think of solutions so I asking what should I do about these people? By the way, I should add. I am aware that I am an in-law and in normal circumstances I would say that even if they didn't want to talk I would pull them aside at a gathering and talk to them anyway. However, the last time I spoke up to anyone in my wife's family I was banned from going to that person's house for any family functions that happened there. It created alot of tension and it turned out that even though I wasn't the offender I had to apoligize to a person with an already big head. I'm sure this may be part of the reason my wife's sister see's me as an easy target. Please help yahoo answerer's!
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