Cuddling in bed, with best friend....?

Question

I have a best guy friend of two years, he knows I like him. (we're 17 and 18) About half a year ago we messed around in bed a little- he was really drunk, cuddling, playing footsie, kissed my shoulder etc... things were kinda akward after that, and we didn't do anything like that again because it kinda hurt my feelings, knowing he didnt feel the same way back.

Over the past two or three months though, he's started becoming a lot more familiar and playful, he will playfight with me, tease me and stuff like that. We've slept in the same room together loads of times since the last incident, with nothing happening.

but last night we'd had a couple of drinks (tipsy at most) and were sleeping in a room with 3 other friends on the floor in sleeping bags. I was next to him- we'd been watching a film, and he'd told me to rest my head on his lap. Then after the film, we turned off the lights and he laid facing me, then shuffled a bit closer and I heard him put his hand closer to me. So I moved my hand near him, and he held it and was gently stoking it with one finger. We fell asleep like this.

Then 4 hours later we got woken up by the dog, we both kinda huffed and rolled over, then he snuggled really close into me, and throughout the next 4 hours or so he was holding my hand and cuddling me and resting his face on mine, he let me stroke his hair and then moved my hand so it was on his chest. He then put his arm around me, and was stroking my back and breathing heavily.He kissed my hand and snuggled up to my arm again, then we drifted off again holding hands, and didnt really sleep much more. When we decided to get up, nothing seemed too akward, he was still holding my hand to his cheek and cuddling up to me. He then told me that I would have to come down at stay at his and visit him when he goes to university in two weeks.

What does all this mean? The first time it happened, it caused a breakup with my boyfriend, and we both kinda knew we'd never do it again. But now it has happened again, he wasn't drunk this time, and he initiated it all. I'm so confused... plus he's going to uni 250miles away in three weeks time :(

Anyone got any ideas how he actually feels about me??? Is there any chance a guy would do this with a close friend, just being friendly?

Answer 1

I have to disagree with most of the answers on here. I have a good guy friend who I have had a similar experience with. We have slept in the same room a number of times and a few nights ago we ended up cuddling all night and well, it seems similar to your story. However, I know he is still in love with the same woman he has been in love with for the past 11 years. During our six hour ride home the next day we talked about her and another girl he likes at his work. Friendly stuff.

He could just be affectionate because you both needed it at the time for whatever reason.

Answer 2

No its not just being friendly - he really likes you. Its a shame hes moving away so far, so soon - you need to talk to him about all of this because chances are hes probably feeling pretty confused about it as well.

Answer 3

If you do not know the answer after all you have told us - you never will!!

Answer 4

Oh come on!

He obviously likes you.

Answer 5

he likes you.

end of story.

he asked you to come visit him because he doesn't want to leave you, but knows he has to for uni.

He's done it NOW, because he doesn't want to loose the opportunity and hate himself for it.

Tell him how you feel.

Go with him if you like him

Answer 6

awww man that sounds soo cute !

well, :( he is moving away !!! what can you do? tell him how you feel !!! at least things will be forgotten as he is moving away?

:(

so sad, and i think he likes you. Why else would he do that? maybe he just doesnt want to lose you as a friend and is scared, talk to him about it

Answer 7

I think there are one of two things going on now.

Either he really likes you OR

He is just trying to make the most of getting with you before he goes away.

I know it sounds terrible but being wanted makes anyone feel good and him leaving knowing you want him will make him feel good.

I dont know why people do it but they do.

Answer 8

He likes you....and was just testing the waters to see how you would react...

Answer 9

Emma  ,  you are both growing up.   getting feelings.   He fancies you in a bit more than good friends way,  but doesnt want to hurt or upset you in any way.  All the cuddling, snuggling,  holding hands etc. is like  putting your toe in the water,  to see what happens..  he is hoping you might respond a little,  then he will cuddle you tighter and so on  ,  till you are both ready for more than just friends sort of things... He is wanting to  kiss you and more  if you show  him that is what you would like...  But a lot is up to you ..  You are both old enough now to know how you feel about each other ..  

Answer 10

Best friend don't do such as thing. I say you both have a chemistry so ask him!

Answer 11

before he goes i think you should ask him so even if he says no your dont have that kind of embarrasement coz ur not gna see him agen