Curing anti-sociality in a few days?

Question

I'm taking a trip to Atlanta in a few days, and don't want to seem like an anti-social freak. I'm pretty good at acting, but I'm gonna be there for about two weeks, constantly wading through giant crowds of unknown people.

What are some good behavioral habits to acquire?

Answer 1

Unless you are willing to go the route of chemical intervention, no habits will allow you to adapt in a few days.

I would recommend trying to talk to a therapist or psychologist before you leave for some strategies.

From personal experience, the only thing you might be able to do on your own is try to be more aware of your feelings. In any social situation, when you feel a negative impulse, to get away from people, to not initiate a conversation, or to react negatively to someone, try to catch yourself as soon as possible, and just do the opposite of what you're thinking.

It may not seem like it, but its much better to say something silly, and still be involved in whatever's going on, than to avoid it altogether. Especially since you're only visiting for two weeks. Make the most of it, let go, and follow your positive impulses!

Answer 2

OK, so I really can't suggest anything that would cure you in a few days, but speaking from personal experience I can make some suggestions in terms of coping skills.  

You say that you don't want to seem anti-social, so I assume that you will have a companion/companions while wading through the crowds.  Try to focus on the person/people that you are with, at least when not min the midst of actual crowd wading.  Observe them, try to learn more about them, build up your relationship(s).  Actually, for me, observation is very helpful.  I do not enjoy crowds, but I also do not enjoy locking myself in at home and hiding, so when I am in a crowded situation, I put on my "sociologist" hat and observe the people around me.  I try to gather insight from the limited clues that are available to me, or observe interpersonal interactions... how do people communicate with each other, that kind of thing.  This puts me in a different frame of mind entirely, distracts me from those awkward, overwhelmed, uncomfortable, nervous feelings and makes the crowds actually kind-of enjoyable.  

Hope that helps, and good luck!

Answer 3

smile a lot and say "hi" to everyone...

practice some small talk - like "Where are you from?, What about this crazy weather?, What do you think about the elections?, Who's your favorite group?, Have you seen any good movies lately?"

Most people in the South are very friendly, so just smile a lot and listen to others. (most will think you're wonderful if you listen to them and nod every now and then to show you're listening to them!)

Answer 4

Just put on a happy face...that'll cover any anti-sociality.