Custody: How do you deal with this??

Question

Ok, so maybe about a week or two ago, my ex tells me he does not want communication with me or our daughters, they are 4 1/2. He rarely sees them anyway, about once a year on average. Well I had decided since then that I will take him to court to get him to sign away his rights/ get child support/whatever. Well my ex tells me if I take him to court he will try and fight for custody...what the h**l, he tells me he did not want any contact whatsoever, and now he is telling me if I take him to court he will fight for custody?? I am just soo confused, why would he do a total flip flop?? What do I do??

Answer 1

You should make sure you get proof of him saying those things. Either in an email or on the phone. Send a bait email asking why. You can explain in court what he said. Just talk to him. Also, he might just be doing it for spite. Good luck and take care!

Answer 2

its his way of getting back control over you. i am guessing that throughout your rltp he was the controller.

if he signs away his rights, he won't have to pay child suppport.  i think he is all talk.  save those email.   i don't think he wants the responsibility of raising two girls.  

Answer 3

try and record all communication, make sure thats legal first of all, actually contact a lawyer.

Answer 4

Take him to court! Do it! Don't chicken out.

He doesn't really want custody anyway. His actions have proven that.

Call him on his bluff.

Even if he fights for custody, do you really think he will suddenly develop a relationship with his kids now after all this time? You'll still always be with your kids no matter what the judge says. This guy isn't a dad at heart. He wants freedom. Don't let him have it without taking care of his responsibilities.

Good luck!

Answer 5

forget wht hes saying he just dont wanna have to pay child support afterall he had no interest in these kids for years and theyre just 4 1/2 take all you have to court voicemail and all you have nothing to worry about for all you know he may not even show up for that since hes probably missed holidays and birthdays tell the judge how you feel they will side wwith you the system has no tolerence for dead beats and loser  

Answer 6

Since he is never in there life anyway. You will get custody of them. Depending on how stable you are. Go for it. Take full custody and get child support. Sounds like those girls have a lousy dad, but a great mom!

Answer 7

Never mind his craziness.  He only said that because he doesn't want to pay child support.  If I were you I would take him to court with the proof and get child support.  He doesn't stand a chance and I would make him help pay to raise his child(ren).