Custody Laws for 16 Year Old Girl?

Question

in 6th grade (now in 10th) my father tried to get full custody of me. he got every other weekend, fri-sun, and every other week in the summer. every single summer its the same thing. i sit around and be all depressed. sometimes my mom came with my friends to visit me, and id cry when they left. my step-mother then said my mom cant visit anymore because i get too emotional. on occasion they even take way the phone while they're at work so i have no way to call long distance.

my father lives out in the country, on a farm. my mom lives in a city, with things to do, about one hour away. i am allergic to everything outside it seems, and being out there just makes it miserable. my dad is always working, and on his days off he goes fishing or hunting. i am against animal violence.

since then, i have been completely ignoring everyone at my dads. its been about a year. they finally said that i dont need to come during the weeks in the summer anymore, but i have to be nice. i still am not happy.

its not that i dont like them (even though they are complete b*****s) they just dont get me. im like the black sheep. total opposite. and im all alone out there.

my mother isnt the most stable person, so that doeesnt really help. also, i have social anxiety which has affected me at school. i ended up not finishing 9th grade and going into homeschool even though its in the custody thing saying i cant be. so thats another negative on me. i never told my dad that i didnt go back to school, or joining home school.

is there anything i can do?

anything to get the job done.

p.s.

sorry about the bad writting. a lot on my mind.

im not going to just drop off the planet, ill still visit. it'll just be on my terms and not so long.

Answer 1

You should get your parents to return to court, at your request, to update the custody arrangements.

Most teenagers your age get jobs in the summer, which would prevent you from going an hour away every other week.  That there are also a lot of allergens that affect you there, is a risk to your health.  Their taking the phone so you can not make calls is dangerous-what if there were an emergency?  AND the fact that he is always at work, or doing something without you when he is off, gives little reason for you to be there, since the purpose is for you to be visiting him.  All of that compounded would, I am sure, make the judge more lenient towards your wishes.

I am pro-homeschooling.  I homeschool my children.  You should also get that addressed if you return to court, because your mother could get in trouble for not following the court orders.  Perhaps you could talk to your father and tell him the positive things you see in homeschool, and see if he would consent.  Was his objection why it is in the court order that you not be homeschooled?  If so, his consent, in writing, would negate that, though a modified court order would be better.

Last, I live in the country.  Allergies aside, there are a lot of things you can do that you can not do in the city.  Are there four wheelers, go carts, dirt bikes, etc?  We have those, and the children love riding them-especially the ones from the city that come to visit and can not do these activities at home.  We have a pond-you can feed the fish. Just walk through the woods and observe nature-sketch what you see, keep a journal, etc.  Might as well make the most of it.

Another suggestion would be to ask your dad if you can do something you would like when he is not working, instead of him going hunting. Maybe he would take you to a movie, the mall, etc.  

I hope this helps, and I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Your 16 right ...

Well at 16 you are legal to move out of your parents house and live on your own

so basically you can pick to

a) live with mum

b) live with dad

c) **** them both and live on your own loll

hope tht help :)