Custody of my son and the courts?

Question

i went in front of a conference officer to obtain custody of my 4 year old son, along with my lawyer and the other parties, and was awarded primary physical custody. my sons mother has pushed it to the court and i'm scared that I'm gonna lose my son. i have documents from children and youth stating that she was at an underage drinking party with my son and had gave him to another person so she could go look for her friend, the police raided the party and the person ran while still carrying him, his mother told the police she had no idea where they went. also have doc's stating her mental health was not stable and that her relationship with her mother, which was where she was residing,was unstable as well. she was living with a pedophile while she had my son. i had picked him up to watch him on Aug, 27th 2007 and she didn't call me for about 2 weeks, saying she wanted him back, i told her no. i have had him for a year now and he has improved so much, but i know she messes with his head, he has told my mom numerous times, and me as well, that his mom tells him things to say like "everybody hits me" and "not to like it at my house", and other things but i don't know how to prove this, i don't wanna drag him into the middle of it so i tell him that nobody can tell him how to feel, to go with his own feelings. But my question is will i lose custody of him after the confernce officer awarded me primary physical custody?

Answer 1

good luck my friend tears drop as i read that 4 real!!! no answer just a dad here that cares my lil girl is 5 and i hope me and my x her mommy and thats what she is no matter what just like we are her dadys are always a part of her life no matter how right we think we are!!!! been there and then some!!!! the real is my lil one is smarter than those at the courts and her mother and i am sure yours is the same the only thing i know to do is to do the right thing no matter what that would be or how you feel. the right thing to do is set a possitive examp for the lil ones!!!!!! this is true and u already no that!!! if its that bad get them out !!!!!!! regrets are something you already knew was wrong when you did it!!!! your lil ones welfare is something you realize on the way home from the hospital!!!!!!!! the lil one first no matter what if not then you will have regrets!! i love bvoth my lil girl "mckinzy" and her mommy my stupid x and regret nothing !!!!  mckinzy is in my life and her the "x:"  is my reason for being here!!!! daddy for sure!!! good luck my friend i wish i had more!!!!

Answer 2

Use EVERYTHING in court that you have told us and ALSO mention tot he judge that YOU can support your son witha better AND more stable life style and are willing to drop child support.

This will impress the judge and the courts LOVE TO SAVE MONEY!

No child support cases or going after he for child suppport, a stable environment for the kid and a better value  of income life.

I bet your wife doesn't evenhave a job.

You shouldn't have any problems maintaining custody and if they DO give her custody, go to the enws media with what you have told us with proof.The judge willbe looking for another job next election.

Answer 3

Sounds like you are doing good and should have no problem. Just always get documentation for everything.

Answer 4

if you were awarded primary physical custody of your son and have documented proof of that then it will help you in court to keep custody..that plus any paperwork to prove how she was an unfit mother..

i wouldnt worry about it..with what u wrote here theres no judge gonna give her custody of your son..

good luck and take care of that boy..

Answer 5

They gave you custody for a good reason....it isn't likely to change just because she wants him back. She has to show a drastic improvement in her living conditions, mental health and choice of lover before the court will even consider giving her visitation much less custody.

I can actually feel your fear....its normal. You have no control of the court or of a situation that 'threatens' your child. But do not despair. The court is on your baby's side.... and that means you win.    

Answer 6

sounds like you have gone along way for the safety of this child and the child's best interest.  My hat comes off to you.

Get a psychology report to prove how happy he is at your house.  Psychologist can pick up those type of things.  Courts except a childs answer after the age 10.  Before then their voice is not heard