Customary behavior at weddings?

Question

One of my friends said it was customary at weddings for everyone to drink too much--there was the nice ceremony, dinner, then everyone gets drunk and people have s*x in cars/corners and the bride and the groom publicly show how much they would LIKE to be having s*x (referring to the whole garter thing).

I was shocked, since I've never seen anyone in my family drunk and can't imagine it, though I've also never stayed through a whole wedding (I've only attended one, and since I was in elementary school still, my family left early). Is this true?

Answer 1

I'm not serving alcohol at my wedding next summer.  

It's sad that people have to poison themselves by getting drunk in order to have a good time.  Very few families I know celebrate in that fashion and frankly, I find it trashy.  I would say it does happen, but it is not the norm!

Answer 2

That actually sounds perfectly normal to me. However, it will depend on the family of the people getting married and the other guests. For my family and friends, what you describe sounds perfectly reasonable, but at a lot of weddings, it wouldn't be.

Answer 3

I would say that the behavior you are explaining would be extremely inappropriate at a wedding. To all weddings I have been to, it has been the complete opposite of this.

It does depend on the people that will be attending, and if the bride and groom are more formal and modern, or party-hardy and roughty. Regardless, I would think that it would be very disrespectful to act the way you were explaining at a wedding. (Whether it were your own, or one that you were invited and attending to)

Answer 4

I work at a country club that caters weddings and events...I have 6 weddings a week ALL YEAR LONG and that does not happen! the only thing that could be similar is that you may have people drinking 2 much but that is the bartenders responsability to cut off or close the bar when they exceed their limit...

Everyone at the wedding including bride and groom want to make the best of the party and night...

and besides... thats what they have  the afterparty at the hotel for!!! lol!

good luck!

Answer 5

My advice to you is to never ask this friend about proper etiquette again. This person is obviously totally off the reservation if that's what they think is supposed to happen at weddings. A wedding is not some high school drunken bash. It is a respectable affair and the guests should act as if they have some sense about them. The guests who get too drunk at weddings are very much frowned upon. And I don't even want to get started on the ludicrous suggestion that people have s*x in the corners. As I said, never ask this person for advice again as they obviously have no idea what they are talking about. In fact, this person sounds like a very bad influence and I'd even suggest staying as far away from him/her as possible.

Answer 6

No, they sound very immature.

A wedding is a celebration and the couple is the focus.  You celebrate the union.

Your friend is talking about what happens when you go out drinking when you're under 16.

Answer 7

No, this information is incorrect.  Obviously, your friend attends much, much wilder events than I do.

I suggest you avoid asking this friend for proper etiquette advice.

I have attended many weddings where people have a single glass of champagne . . . and sometimes attend weddings where no alcohol at all is served.  No one has s*x in cars or corners.  That would be inappropriate.

I have even attended weddings where bride & groom opted to skip both the garter thing and the bouquet toss.  

Perhaps you should be declining any invitations this friend extends?  He or she sounds a bit wild.

I am sure as you attend more weddings, you will see that the majority of them are respectable events . . . where wedding focus remains on bride and groom.  People are there to show their love and happiness for the couple.  Not to be wild.

Answer 8

no that bull **** no body act like that they just was hot and feeling the love from everybody ,that was there so it happen and when you drink you want s*x cause your body calls for it at that time and the music  puts you in the mood .

Answer 9

No, that doesn't seem right.  I think people have every right to enjoy themselves.  I've been to many weddings were people drink and get a little tipsy.  But, never to the point of inappropriate behavior.  Normally, people will just be dancing more and laughing more.  Totally appropriate behavior, but caused slightly by the alcohol.  

What you described is totally trashy.  What type of people do you associate with?  No offense, but are they trashy or low class?  This seems like that type of behavior, by those type of people.  You might be someone who grew up or has decided to live by a different set of standards.  I could see something like this happening on that show, "My Big Fat Redneck Wedding"  But, at any normal functioning event attended by people of class, there will be drinking, but no disgusting, degrading or low class behavior like that.