Cutting? Please help!?

Question

I'm 14, going to be 15 in January, and I recently started cutting myself when I get really upset. My dad and I are constantly arguing and my sister is always putting me down. I'm really thin if you look at me from the side, but i'm really wide and I feel super fat. My love handles are outrageous and I want to lose weight but I'm adddddicted to Starbucks and things like that, plus it doesn't help having all this junk food in the house. I do play soccer though and every now and then I work out. Idk I guess I feel as if I'm depressed and when I cut myself it's the only pain I can control, ya' know? But Like, when I do cut, I don't go deep. It's like a really deep scratch that barely bleeds. Is this bad? and can anyone relate?

Answer 1

Yes, it's bad, and yes, I can relate. It sounds like you have a lot of stress and are taking out all your frustrations on your own body. What you need to do is find something that'll get you calm when you're fighting with your father or sister or things're just getting tough...you could go for runs or write poetry when you're upset, or do whatever can get your mind off things or, conversely, help you get your feelings out. You could also talk to a friend about your problems, and he or she might be able to give you the reassurance you need.

You also said that you feel "super fat" but that you're really thin from the side. I don't know how you look, but rather than starving yourself or anything, if you want to be healthy, get your parents to buy lots of filling, healthy food that you like; you won't get fat, and you can eat whatever you like and enjoy it and stay fit.

As for the cutting; you must REALLY be suffering. Try your best to stop, or talk to a therapist. If you want to wean yourself off of cutting, try pressing an ice-cube against your arm/thigh/wherever you cut instead when you feel the urge. It feels sharp and a little painful, like cutting, but it's healthier.

Good luck! You sound like you're going through a really hard time.

Answer 2

Yes it is wrong to cut yourself. Please stop!! I have always thought I was fat as a teen, now that i look back i was skinny. You just need to gain self esteem. Take a look in the mirror and just keep pointing out positives things about yourself, things you like. Do it everyday, talk to someone. Just whatever you do, please stop cutting yourself....its sucide.

Answer 3

i used to cutt myself also........but i was pregnant.....(im 15) someone told my favorite teacher and my teacher to ld my boyfriend(17) and my boyfriend told my parents and i got help........

i dont cut anymore to my childs sake and my health and for my boyfriend.............

im puertorican and it was akward for my family to except i ws cutting because (most hispanics dont cutt)

so yeah anyways.........

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♥i can be like your penpal!

Answer 4

What you need to do is really get professional help. Cutting is an unhealthy method of releasing emotions and memories without actually having to talk about them at all. What you need to do is talk to a pyschologist, so you both can figure out what is making you do this. From there, you can figure out the best method of how to help you. Cutting is serious and it means there's a lot of things you are hiding deep down. Trust me, it's the best thing you can do and you will feel so much better in the long run.

A hair tie around the arm is a great idea. It is what most pyschologist will suggest. However, you can't just get yourself to stop and you can't just throw away everything sharp and expect it to fix anything (like some people are suggesting). There is a reason why you are doing this. And in order to stop all of this, you need to attack those emotional and physical problems. Not just make yourself stop. Please talk to a therapist.

Answer 5

Tell someone.  Get someone to take you to therapy.

Get an accountability partner, someone to check in on you & make sure you're not falling into the same situation.

Throw all the razors in the house out.

Answer 6

okay you probably dont want to hear this.

But in 6th and 7th and 8th I cut to. But in 6th

grade I cut so much it started bleeding and my arm

was so hurt. I had to wear a big hoodie the next day and

there was a dance I was going to. Not a dress up one

but my friends kept pulling my arm to get me to go where

they ant. and I kept tellin them to stop that they were hurting

me. well one of my friends pulled my hoodie up and asked me how old those were and I was like 2 weeks ago. and she knew they were fresh since she cut herself. she got caught and had to go to a mental ward and it was very bad. she started crying in the middle of the dance begging me not to do it again. It was down right horrible. I still do it sometimes and lately I started again but they are just little cuts. That night I made my friends cry and worry. So please stop. When you're feeling depressed write about it in a journal. Cry yourself to sleep. just dont cut. You really dont want to get caught and have to do therapy believe me. and dont worry about you weight. youre probably not even fat. love how you look.

hope I helped

Answer 7

i cant defantly relate, cutting is bad and i have learned that... and most people that dont do it.. can not even begin to relate of why people do it. and your probaly not fat at all you just need to get a boost of self esteem.. .. do the hair tie trick that the other person mitioned i think that could help alot.

im going to start trying it!

Answer 8

i used to be the same wayy then i got sent to therapy and they told me to wear a rubber band or hair band on my arm and when ever i want to cut just snap the rubber band it makes u feel the same... its beter for u

Answer 9

i know exactly what your going through, and i know how it can make you feel like your in control of something, but all it does is hurt the people around you and yourself. i cut for three years and when my friends found out they were so upset, and i almost died from it, i accidently hit a vein and had to go to the hospital, it was really scary. but as for the weight issue, i had that problem recently and the best thing to do is just eat small portions, and junk food is OK at times, but just dont make it your whole diet.

and heres something that made me feel better, even if all you do is sit on your butt all day you burn AT LEAST 1,900 calories. more if your more active throughout the day.

but just remember, everything will get better, no matter what you may think now. just hold onto your faith :)

it will be alright.

Answer 10

Yes I can relate.But I think you are doing this because of what your sister and da are going through.I know that you have a lot of pain but you shouldn't take it out by hurting your self.Yes it's bad but I don't want you to think the wrong ways.And you eat because your depressed and that's what happens.But try talking to a counselor and get help like that.

Answer 11

i am the exact same way. i have tried cutting, but never managed to break skin. feel free to e-mail me

Answer 12

cutting yourself wont help you solve any of your problems it will just destory you and those who lover you...i think you should talk to someone maibe a phycologist and about your weight problem try to forget about one thing i can tell you for sure is that whoever is going to like or love you is going to do just the way you are if not they are not worth it trust me. plus why you dont want ugly marks on your hands

Answer 13

i can relate i had a bad relationship that got me hurt i started not eating and then i started throwing up my food but then my friends told me that i had to stop or else they would not be my friend so i stopped doing that and starting cutting my my ankles with razors but my friends kept telling me not to do it so ya cutting ur self is bad and u shouldn't do it it is hard to deal with being upset the best thing to do is tell someone that u are really close to and really trust how upset u are then u will feel better cause u are not holding it all in

Answer 14

Hey, I have also struggled with hurting myself, so I can totally relate.

It seemed like my life was just a disaster and I couldn't cope anymore.  The stress just built up and built up inside of me and I felt like I just had to let it out somehow or I would explode.

Finally when I really started worrying about my situation, I decided to talk to somebody.  You mentioned a teacher.  If you're having a bad day, is there a teacher you like, maybe someone who'd be a good listener?

Sometimes talking about my problems keeps me from hurting myself.  

The school counselors at my school were never very good, but they were always available, and sometimes just having a listening ear was all I needed.

Incidentally, I went to see someone at my church about various struggles, including hurting myself, just today in fact (no kidding!)  And we talked and prayed together.  I remember a few years ago being so afraid I would do something terrible to myself.  I hate admitting I need help, but I knew I was worth it, and you are too.  You're important to the people around you and especially to God!!!  

So...talk about the stress in your life, with Him and with someone else who will be a good listening ear.  The stresses in your life are too heavy a burden to carry on your own, so bring them to the people around you--to teachers, or pastors, or counselors.  And ask Him to help you.  And I also will pray for you.