DO I TELL MY HUSBAND THAT ANOTHER MAN KISSED ME AND I KISSED HIM BACK?

Question

We only kissed and nothing else happened but I am so hurt for what happen

Answer 1

Honesty is the key in any healthy marriage but you kissed this man back. If you are going to tell your husband he may never trust you again or it may ruin your marriage - or if you promise never to do it again he may just brush it off and move on. There's no way of telling how he is going to react.

My question to you is why did you put yourself in a situation where you were alone with another man who kissed you and you kissed back and you didn't pull away?! What is up in your marriage to make you sway from your husband like that?! I think you need to do some serious thinking because if you were happy and content in your marriage you never would have kissed another man.

I wouldn't say anything if I were you - because if you do - I'd be prepared for my marriage to end...you did something horrible...but if you do believe in true honesty you man need to sit your husband down and tell him what happened...

Guilt will get the best of you and I do not believe it will go away until you tell your husband what happened.

Answer 2

A better question to ask yourself would be, why did you let the other man kiss you, and more importantly, why did you kiss him back?  

When a married person cheats (which, I'm sorry to tell you, is what you did) it is usually because he or she is unsatisfied in the marriage.  It stands to reason that if you are unhappy, you need to address the root cause of THAT, because kissing a man who is not your husband will only add more problems.  

You write that you're hurt by what happened.  I take that to mean, you're hurt that you allowed it to happen, and you're hurt that you responded in a positive way to the kiss.  My advice in this sense is that if you're hurting now, imagine how much you'll hurt by keeping it secret for months or even years.  Honesty is always better than dishonesty.  If your husband had kissed another woman, would you want to know?  Would you feel that you deserved to know?  

I cannot answer that for you.  Your heart and your head guide you in the right direction.   What are they telling you?