DO REWARD CHARTS WORK?

Question

MY DAUGHTER HAS PROBLEMS GOING TO SLEEP AT NIGHT WITHOUT EITHER MYSELF OR MY HUSBAND THERE WITH HER. WHEN SHE WAKES IN THE NIGHT SHE ALSO NEEDS US THERE TO FALL BACK ASLEEP. WE HAVE TRIED THE CRY IT OUT METHOD BUT SHE IS A SMART KID AND TO GET US BACK IN WILL SOUT THINGS LIKE "OWW, HURT" SO OF COURSE WE GO IN TO FIND HER OK AND NOT HURT, IT WAS SUGGESTED TO ME TO TRY TO US A REWARD CHART, LIKE SHE GETS A STICKER IF THE GOES TO SLEEP WITHOUT US AND ANOTHER STICKER IF SHE SLEEPS THROUGH THE NIGHT WITHOUT US GOING IN? HAS ANYONE USED CHARTS? DO THEY WORK? SHE IS ALMOST 2. ANY INFORMATION WILL BE HELPFUL. THANKS

Answer 1

yes they do! you can make one or buy one at lakeshore learning centers after a full week of stickers she can pick out of the "prize" box

that you keep for her,its great incentive,make sure you praise her often when she's a "big girl" and sleeps on her own! and after two full weeks you could take her for an ice cream or something..good luck!

Answer 2

They work if you keep up with them...which I'm personally not good at! lol

Answer 3

I have always used the reward chart for toilet training and such and have always gotten good results. As she is a little bit small to understand the chart completely you could start by giving her a sticker just for staying in her bed for maybe a few hours at first and build it up from there , in the end its all down to perseverance you will get there in the end

Answer 4

I had the same problem with my daughter and a problem with them getting dressed on there own in the morning.  I started it a while ago and it has been working great for me.  i made my chart myself on the computer with the things I want them to do and then 7 days for each day of the week my chart has on it, going to bed on your own, staying in bed through the night, getting dressed on your own, shring your toys, and if they listened all day.  I started this chart when my daughter was about 2 1/2 and she understands what I do is we go through the day and the next day they come to the chart with me and watch me put the smiley face there.  If they have all smiley face's on there chart I have 2 kids then I take them to wal-mart and let each one of them pick out a toy and I set a dollar amount of course I usually let them spend between 5 and 8 dollars each.  It has worked GREAT for us hope it works for you.  Good Luck

Answer 5

Yes!  They do work.   I have two boys aged five and seven and the reward calender works like a charm.    If they have good behaviour for five days they get five stickers and a reward for that.

It could be a pack of gum, dollar store toy, trip to a special place or whatever we felt the behaviour deserved.  

Your daughter is young but if you stick to the process and find something she wants to earn it could work.   Start by giving her a sticker or a small piece of candy in the morning for staying in her bed.  Every child is different.

Good luck.

Answer 6

yes, I find that they help alot when they are older. 2 is a little young for that type of long term thinking... like ALL night. I think that would help you down the road, but not at this point.

Answer 7

My daughter just turned 3 and she was a very good crib sleeper we started her on a schedule at 6 weeks old. She still continues the schedule, at 8:30 she is in the tub and then she gets out about 8:45 we get her dressed and lay her in our bed and she watches Curious George and Wordworld that we have DVR'd then I move her into her bed and she gets to watch a movie then she goes to sleep. She is in a big bed now. If she gets out of her bed then I pick her up and tell her "good night love" and put her back and close the door to a crack.

If she gets up again then I pick her up and tell her "good night"

If she gets up again then I pick her up and put her back into her bed without saying anything. If she sleeps through the night she gets a sticker on her shirt and one on the calender.

If she does start crying in the middle of the night don't go in there, she can come to my bed and I will put her in with us then when I wake up because she kicked me in the head an hour later, I put her back into her bed and she goes to sleep. But if you go in when she does cry she is thinking that cool if I cry someone will come.