DO YOU THiNK iTS DiSRESPECFUL FORA 20YR OLD TO STAY THE NiGHT AT HER BOYFRiEND'S HOUSE??

Question

iM 20 YRS OLD AND i HAVE A BOYFRiEND, MY MOM THiNKS iTS DiSREPECTFUL TO ME TO BE STAYiNG NiGHTS AT MY BOYFRiENDS HOUSE...i DONT THiNK SO AND HiS MOM LOVES FOR ME TO STAY AT THE HOUSE SO i DONT SEE THE PROBLEM...DO YOU??

Answer 1

I don't think it's disrespectful at all as long as your boyfriend and his family welcome you. You are of age and can do what you want and are past the age where your mom tells you what to do

Answer 2

It's only disrespectful if you are staying the night uninvited.

Answer 3

No, you're an adult and can make your own decisions. It would be disrespectful if his parents didn't want you there. I'm 21 and I live with my boyfriend and his parents, try that, it's freakin hard! But his parents love me and love having me around so there is nothing wrong with it. Don't listen to your mom on this one, she obviously doesn't understand the situation. Maybe explain to her that his parents like having you there so there is nothing wrong with it. Unless she's one of those moms who thinks you have to be married to sleep together then she will understand. I know my boyfriends mom was like that when we first started dating but she got over it. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Disrespectful is not so much what you, but in how you do it.  

If you have been invited by your boyfriend, and have permission from the owner of the house (his mom), then it's perfectly acceptable for you to stay at his house.  

If you are blatantly ignoring or breaking the rules of the house YOU live in, or telling your mom to butt out of your life, then your attitude is disrespectful to her.  If you are living in your mom's house, she has a right to set certain ground rules about what happens in her home, but she does not have a right to dictate what you do outside the home.

Tell your mom you appreciate her concerns, but you are doing this out of love for him, not out of disrespect to her.

Also, please stop typing in all caps - it's disrespectful to US, your listeners, to shout like that.

Answer 5

nope. you're 20 years old and you can do w/e you want.

Answer 6

Well it depends in what way you look at it. If your mother is religious or is really strict about boyfriends than in her point of view than yes it is disrespectful and by that i mean maybe because your not married but it just depends in which way you look at it. Your 20 and you CAN do what you want BUT  i don't think  that its an excuse not to take your mothers opinions into consideration. But im not saying your not just saying. Maybe you should ask your mother what she means by that when she says that you are disrespectful. But anyways it's upto you what you do. In a way it is disrespectful if you are sleeping together under his mothers roof i think thats what your mother means. I DONT think im being old fashioned or anything i think that people are forgeting how it used to be and the values of it.  

Answer 7

Since you are an adult, and you did that against your

parents wishes.

All your "stuff" would be sitting on the front porch, the very

next morning. <}:-{(

Answer 8

No. I'm 19 and I stay nights at my boyfriend's house all the time. But only because his parents love having me there. If they didn't want me to spend the night, I wouldn't.

As long as his parent/s is fine with it, it's not disrespectful at all.  

Answer 9

Your mom sees it as disrespectful because you still live with her and you're her little girl. Maybe she was brought up with morals but times have changed and a lot of moms see it wrong all though when were young we dont think so. I know you're young and youre already an adult so you feel like you can do anything you want - and you can legally. But its just the way your mom thinks - just understand that she loves you and she wants the best for you and she just doesn't think its right for you to stay. Maybe when you get older and have your own children, you'll understand better. Honesty, i don't think its disrespectful, but i know my parents would think so.

Answer 10

It's not disrespectful if his mom's OK with it. Sounds like your mom's old fashioned. Nothing wrong with that, but if you feel the need, just explain that his mom's OK with it so she should be, too.

Answer 11

I think it would be disrespectful if you "did the deed" in his mother's home with her there.  

Answer 12

my mom thinks it disrespectful that when my 24 year old fiance stays over we sleep in the same bed.

but no what you are doing is not disrespectful.  your mom is just uncomfortable with the though of her little baby doing grown up things

Answer 13

If you're still living with your mom, or if she's paying any of your expenses then yes, you have a problem.  The cost of accepting that support is listening to her morals.  If you don't agree you always stand the chance of loosing the support.  So either act like you agree or stand on your own two feet totally so you don't have to listen.