DO you think the friendships have 'seasons'? ?

Question

I have had an issue over the last 2 years with some of my "friends." I have completely cut ties with 3 of them and my closer friends tell me that it's normal that this happens. I guess the real problem is that I am perfectly comfortable with my decision, but that makes me feel like i'm a terrible person on the inside that i don't feel remorse. I am a very blunt person and i had no problem being honest and talking to them about the issues but it left me with no progress and the problems just got worse.

The background on the friendships are as follows: the first one was still in her mode of partying all the time, and I was settling down with my husband, but she would call me late at night and beg me for an hour to go get drunk with her, i would decline and offer to do something else but she would refuse and it got to the point where she would cuss me out and hang up. I take it that she can't handle the fact that i was settling down, but regardless this went on for months and i finally just couldn't deal any more.

The second was ruined because her fiance didn't care for my husband, and he would proceed to gossip about him in public to my friends and bad mouth him, so i confronted them and she stood up for him saying that he was just venting...well he kept "venting" for about a year until finally i had enough.

The third one was a really weird situation where she liked to go to my (single) fathers house and tell him deatiled stories about her s*x life and then ask to barrow money, i approached her about it and it ended up in a blow up fight that ended the friendship.

I was friends with all three of these women for about 5 years when all of this started happening out of the blue at different times.

So all this being said, am i wrong in ending these friendships?

Answer 1

I have a friend and we have been friends or about 30 years...still friends but we have seasons....She did not like my bf.....I really did not like her husband.....we don't talk for long periods of time...life gets in the way....or we have a fight....but in the end when we need each other we are there........right now things are good and have been for about 6 months....but before that we did not talk for over a year......If you are good friends it will all work out and come back together and if it does not happen that way then oh well...you will make new friends and go thought seasons with them I am sure....hope this helps.

Answer 2

yeah, some ppl r seasonal in our lives..........

Answer 3

of course not, these people were not your friends, at least not when they started doing those things, their true colors showed an i bet when you look back you see signs. i have cut off some friends as well i realize that i may not be the best judge of people and i have to reevaluate who i hang around, no more negativity, or more b.s. i am putting me first. you do not need these people, dont feel bad, they were hurting you not helping you. if you had conti nued the friendships they could have done even more harm.