DOES MY MOM HATE ME?? SHE ALWAYS TALKS DOWN TO ME EVERYDAY AND BEATS ME ALOT TOO idk why :( ?

Question

I am always so sad all the time. It realy hurts me soooo much how my mom acts like shes hates me and how she treats me See like mostly everyday she talks down to me and sometimes beats me for the littlest things I do. I NEVER curse at her yell at her or talk down to her or any of that never have in my life. I always had high respect for my mom and I love her dearly because she rescued me when I was little by adopting me from this crazy family that wanted to kill me. And she always says when I ask her do u love me "if I didnt love you I wouldnt have fought for u in court to adopt u from that crazy family". And of course I love u dont ask a stupid question like that" But see she has like a real bad temper and she gets mad so easy for the littlest things like if I dont clean something or do something she wants me to do or give her something she wants she'll beat me or talk down to me. And if I dont do something she says or forgets or have a dirty look by accident on my face she'll curse at me and call me a ****** whose like no other kid and im 16, or beat me. And everything she says to me really tears me apart inside and I just wish we were closer and I could please her. She says I'm a bad kid and I know I'm not I take care of her and help her and do mostly all the cleaning and cooking in my house and taking care of my animals along with my chores. its even hard to keep up in school doing all that. I even was like the only one taking care of my dad when he had cancer earlier this year. but she still treats me wrong and says im a bad kid cuz i dont treat her right?? and do everything she says?? I like never talk back only once in a while cuz if I do I get beat. And to top it off she never buys me anything really cuz she says I dont deserve anything until i change. I never get to ever go shopping for clothes hardly or buy something I really want. And she doesnt have any money saved up for me for college she takes all the money I get like every month too from the adoption place which is like 1,000 every month (but she does provide me with a lot of food and treats and stuff tho and I live in a real nice house with a pool and hav 5 pets which im real grateful for ) cuz shes thinks imma be unsuccessful based on my grades which are mostly A's and B's and a couple C's once in a while. and if I do on a rare occassion get something I want from her or someone else if I upset her it gets taken away. And also which hurts my heart the most is everything I ask for from her she says no and also I want to follow my dream and become a singer or actress or model cuz I love doing those things and she wont let me take any classes no dance, no acting, no modeling,no singing, and those things are my passion and I'm real talented at it too, thats what everyone says. I feel so free when i sing and write songs and dance and act. But its always no and that doing those things I'll be unhappy and become nothing. And she says its a stupid dream to have and if I dont become a doctor which are "succesful" she says Imma become a nothing and unhappy and have a bad sad life, crying all the time. She says she had a dream at night too that I wasnt succesful in anything I did and that I was always crying unhappy always trying to make it somewhere and just when I would I would fail she said or something would get in my way. And she said i would be unlucky with men too if i keep up with my ways and that shes clairvoyant and is trying to warn me to follow the right path. And I dont know what to do *tear drops* I really want to follow my dream and I so wish my mom treated me better and didnt talk down to me and treat me wrong like everyday. I never do like anything but maybe not do everything she says or come when she calls me sometimes, but thats it. She doesnt even let me out the house to do like anything fun or have friends. I have to always be in the house or else. *crying* I dont kno what to do about my life. I'm so sad!! I try not to let it effect me and try to be a strong person and I pray to God alot about it. And I really want to have a good life when I get older and i dont kno waht to do!!!!:( :( But I kno my mom loves me I just wonder why she acts the way she does?? COULD SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!! what should I do to feel better and follow my dream and be succesful in life. I kno I'm not a bad evil person like she says I am to hurt me inside. I am actually really kindhearted and caring for everyone. I never am mean like ever!! and I hate fighting and yelling and all that cuz my parents do that all the time and I HATE IT. what should I do??

Answer 1

first of all i want to say that i'm really sorry, and please never give up

on her. the second i read the part about her getting bad tempers i thought that she might be bipolar and not know it because people who are bipolar get moody like that and there ARE medications, and things to treat this. so what i would do is keep praying because God does love you (: and also when you catch her or your dad in a good mood (or both) i'd have a talk. say something like "mom i know i'm not perfect but it makes me feel really bad when you say mean things to me like..." so that maybe she can understand. also explain to her it makes you feel sad, and unwanted. hopefully this will work BUT if it doesn't work then i would secretly see a counselor at school, or someone you can trust such as an older family member. i hope the best for you, and you will be in my prayers (: if you need any other help just e-mail me, and i'd be happy to help. i'm so sorry once again.

God Bless you.

Answer 2

well thats alot of reading so i didnt read it i just read the title but um tell someone or email me at [e-mail]

Answer 3

My mom and I had pretty much the same thing going on just 2 years ago.  She would act the same way with me and everything.  Never in my life have I disrespected her, even though she pretty much gave me away to my grandparents when I was 5 and then "took me back" when I was 13.  

She would also beat my brother and sister even though I would stop her in which case she took it out on me.  (better me than them)  Finally, I told one of the school councelors and they told social services.  They didn't take us away or anything, they just talked to her and me and I guess taught her how to control her anger a bit through counceling.  I can't say things are much better now, but at least she won't lay a finger on me if fear they'll take my brother and sister away.

Also, I found out my mom had problems of her own that she took out against me.  She feels like she is a failure and hasn't done anything in life.  Maybe your mom is going through some things too, what with your dad's cancer and all. Try talking to her first, but if that doesn't work, seek a psychologist's help.

Good luck

Answer 4

Wow. I actually read every single word of that.. and every single word breaks my heart!! I am so sorry that you are living your life like this, that is unbelievable. I can't imagine how you must feel, your mom must be going through a tough time with something I suppose, and she blames it on you. You need to talk to her, and I mean sit down with her and talk to her. A little crying never hurts. You have to get it out there, and you have to let her know how she is tearing you apart. And don't forget to say that you are very thankful she adopted you, and that you love her so much, but you have to be treated with respect. If nothing works.. then tell an auntie or uncle. It really does upset me you can't hang out with friends, you have to let her know you are responsible enough to hang out with people. And what! She is beating you? Okay, that is NOT okay.  You have to let her know that that isn't right. If it continues I know it will be hard, and you love your mother dearly, I love mine too, you have to tell an aunt or uncle. This needs to stop. Just talk to her have a deep conversation. She loves you, she really does but she needs to know that you love her too but the beatings must end. I am so sorry :( x

Answer 5

actually tell her this

if she sees you crying and still doesnt care then you should call the police

maybe she has something thats bothering her. ask her about her day and things like that. if she doesnt care again look for help

Answer 6

Maybe if your mom says something to hurt your feelings again or hurts you physically ask or tell it to someone you really trust like a best friend or a trusted adult. or sit down with your mom and tell her that when she does this it really scars you even if she doesnt realize it  

Answer 7

Asking strangers on the internet for help isn't the greatest idea, this could be a bigger problem. You should talk to your guidance counsellor at school first, they always help!

Answer 8

if she's beating you then you need to call 911.

do NOT even mention anything to her, or else she can and will do something.

Answer 9

Honey you are not rescued, you are a hostage. Your mom is not a good mother and it sounds like she has a hero complex but in fact she isn't.t a hero. You have a right to be treated with love, dignity and respect. You have a right not to be touched in a violent way by any one. Do you have an adult you can trust and confide in? Maybe a favorite teacher, school counselor or your doctor? You absolutely must tell an adult.  Its the only way to get help and make her stop. In my state of WA; CPS gets involved and they try to help the family resolve issues without removing you from home. Mother would be monitored and maybe get therapy. She may be going through menopause or have a mental health issue. Obviously she isn't behaving normal. You need to tell the agency if nothing else. You are 16 OMG you are suppose to be shopping and have friends and going places like kids do. Its nice you are helpful but you are not suppose to be her slave. Its wrong as you said. Your dreams may have to be put on hold until you are 18 but it won't be too late then. I do think having a back up education is important because even high talented people don't get the breaks in that line of work, easily.

Please please reach out to an adult and get help. God often requires us to be pro-active for our own best life. E mail me honey and let me know if your life works out. Your mom isn't giving you love but it doesn't mean necessarily that she doesn't love you. She sure is angry and doesn't seem to love life. I think she hates her life and you happen to be in it so she takes it out on you. Btw what does dad think and why is he allowing her to hurt you?

Answer 10

i'd learned, violence ALWAYS worstens. GET OUT QUICK B4 u end up dead like my sister did!!! violence ends in death.