Dad doesnt no :(?!?!?

Question

Ok soo im 8 months pregnant..

And my mom was very mad at me because im 15

And my dad said if anything like that ever happened

He would be very angry

but i havent seen him in a year becuase i went to stay with my mom for a visit.

Now im going back home tommrow

what do i say because i know i cant hide it :(

im sooo dead

Answer 1

I was a teen mom too so I know how you feel. I was soooo scared to tell my parents. I told my grandmother, then she told my parents. I know it would be a no brainer to tell your dad yourself, but maybe your mom could tell him for you. After he hears the news, give him a few days to think about it and cool off. Ask you mom to tell your dad to call you whenever he feels ready. Its a big deal and your family has to adjust to the arrival of your baby. Have you made plans yet? Talk to your family about what your plans are, and have an open ear to thier advice. They love you :)

Answer 2

Oh boy, I think that you dad will be more upset that you have not told him and you are now 8 months pregnant.  You should call him today so that he is a little less shocked when he sees you.  Although it is a little late to say it, if you have to eat crow, it is best to do it while it is fresh rather than old and rotten.  In otherwords, do not put off something that you are going to eventually have to deal with anyway.

Answer 3

when you see him just say surprise!!!!

Answer 4

just be funny about it, if thats not the way he deals with things then say "dad im the one whos pregnant and i cant do anything about it now and im very emotional so just support me, its too late, it was a bad thing for me to do, but everything will be okay"

Answer 5

Obviously, you can't hide it. You made a mistake and now it's your time to be an adult and handle an adult situation.

You chose to have s*x, whether it was protected or not is entirely irreverent -- You're in it now, you only have one option. You have to be an adult and deal with the adult situation you put yourself in.

Best wishes.

Answer 6

Oh Man that is a problem... obliviously you can't hide it...

i would tell him in detail that your sorry and apologize.. don't try to hide it from him that would make him more mad ..

Answer 7

Well he's most likely going to see it before you get to tell him, you just have to stand your ground with him.

Answer 8

He might know about it already. Both of my sisters got pregnant at 14 and 15 and my mom is crazy already.. so i know. But Youre 15! theyre gonna be angry regardless. You cant avoid that. But it doesnt last. and youre lucky your already so late in your preganancy, so theyres only so much damage he can do. When you see him, you dont have to say anything, it will be preeettty obvious when he sees you. Just have something prepared about your plans as a mother, school, working, the father, you and the child's livelyhood.

So that way you having some sort of idea for the near future will soften the blow.

Good Luck. & remember dont worry, it wont be as bad as you think.

Answer 9

he hasnt heard it yet from  somebody

i would talk to him before you go  home

Answer 10

You're crazy for not telling him in the first place. That jus goes to show that 15 year olds should NOT be reproducing! Didn't you think that if you told him BEFORE you showed up all big and pregnant, he'd be less angry. The man is gonna **** himself!!! Honesty is the best policy....didn't your mom teach you that? Obviously not since she hasn't told your dad either!

Answer 11

I would have said it before you saw him so he knows whats coming, we tried for my son and i was 21 and my dad still acted weird, i think they see it as your their little girl and your pregnant havng a baby of your own kinda thing, you could send a question to a section asking dads why they get like that. good Luck congrats in the daughter

Answer 12

Do you really think that your Dad doesn't know?? Even if your parents are divorced, I am sure that they talk...  even if he doesn't know, you can't really change it now!  I would call and tell him now before you see him in person, give him a little bit of time to process it before he sees you.  He is your Dad, so he will love you unconditionally!  

Answer 13

it too late to do anything about it now, just do it n get it over with. I felt the same way when i was 15 n pregnant, but my mom was there for me n my dad he wanted to kill the father, but he got out it n was proud of the person i became

Answer 14

tell him right away.  otherwise it will be worse if you dont.

Answer 15

you should probably tell him b4 u get there so he isnt completly shocked when he sees you. whats done is done and hes not ever going to hate u for it, he may be a little disapointed but hes your dad and he will love you and your baby no matter what

Answer 16

well you set your self up for this one.

how do you think you dad is going to feel? pregnancy isnt like hiding a bad grade is changes your life and you wouldnt tell you own father about that?

he is going to be so hurt by you

Answer 17

You need to ask your mom to talk to your dad beforehand to help prepare him.  You shouldn't just pop up on his door, ready to give birth.  Please contact him first - think about what a shock that would be to him.  

Answer 18

you probably should have told them sooner but there is nothing you can do about it now. he will just have to deal with it. there is nothing he can do about it. good luck and congrats

Answer 19

Obviously you are just going to have to tell him the truth and he may be mad but as soon as the baby girl is here he will fall in love with her! Congrats. I hope everything goes okay. Don't listen to him. Plenty of women get pregnant very young and are very great mothers! Just expect that he will be mad, but he will get over it.. Good luck hun!

Answer 20

You know the thing that he will probably the most upset about is that you waited 8mo to tell him. I would tell him before you go home, dont put him into complete shock. Whats done is done, you cant turn back time, so why make it worse? Just tell, him. Apologize for keeping it from him. He will be angry but eventually he will have to get over it. If the situation with him is too uncomfortable, why not stay with your mother?

Answer 21

You don't have to say anything.  When you step out of the car/airplane/train/whatever..... it will be obvious.  That being said, you aren't "dead".  He may be upset, but he'll get over it.  I strongly suggest you warn him before just showing up pregnant though.  He hasn't seen you in a year.  Its gonna be difficult no matter what.

Answer 22

Tell your dad on the phone to give him time to prepare. He will be angry. If he has time to let it sink in before you show up, he may be slightly more welcoming. If not, you may need to extend your stay with your mom. It may be nice to have a maternal figure around once the baby is born.

Congratulations!

Answer 23

All you can do is tell him the truth. It may be wise to tell him before you see him. It may be a little shocking when he sees you after a year and you are pregnant and he had no idea.

By the way, I have a lot of respect for you! Thank you for not getting an abortion!  

Answer 24

Just tell him that the incident is a thing in the past and there is nothing to do to change it.  Tell him that you need him to be there for you and to not ridicule you for a mistake.  There is nothing that he can do about it.  Good luck.

Answer 25

wow yeah you are

but hwy dont you stay with your mom?

Answer 26

I'm sorry, but what you did was really stupid but you deserve what you are going to get for not listening to ur parents.

Answer 27

call him before u get there and maybe have you three talk are u keeping the baby just talk he will probably be more mad that u didnt tell him no worries it will be ok! :)