Dad just died, what to do with mom?

Question

My mother is in her 70s I'm a single 49 year old male.

My dad just died. They lived out west, now she wants to move

back east with or near me.Does anyone here have a similar

situation? We get along ok, but I like my life as it is. Living

nearby would be fine, but living in the same house wth her

again would take some getting used to

Answer 1

For both of your sakes I would have her live near you, but not with you.  You might find an apartment community for seniors, this will give her a chance to make new friends and stay busy.  You do not want to become her entire world, she will need places to go and people to see.  I am sorry for the loss of your father.

Answer 2

If she is independent, you should be able to find a subsidized apartment near you for her.  

I was in a similar situation when my grandparents could no longer take care of their property in a rural area, and I moved them into an apartment nearby.  

Answer 3

comfort her if she lives nearby just visit her but not all the time she should no u got a life too!

Answer 4

tell her how u feel. get an apartment near her or something if there is no other choice u mit live with her, but honestly, i think it will make both of u miserable and wont help ur mom any.

Answer 5

I am sorry and my thoughts are with you.

If you want to make your mother happy, then I suggest getting a Dog or cat. Some type of animal that she likes that isn't in a cage and make sure she likes the animal. Animals keep great company. And if you want her to live near by, then get her an apartment or a small house near yours.  

Answer 6

get her an apartment if you can. living with you should only happen if there is no other choice. She deserves the privacy as much as you do.

Answer 7

You don't have to live with her. Get her an apartment close by so you can keep an eye on her and keep your independence.

Answer 8

It is a tough time, do everything you can to support mom. Keep selling her on the idea of living nearby and you will do what you can to support her. I am truly sorry for your loss. Mom needs someone right now and you can and will step up.

Good luck.