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my daughter has just graduated college and is spending the summer with me till she heads out of state for grad school. the other day i needed something and decided it must be in her room. we have always had a huge respect for each others privacy, so i called her and she told me where it was in her dresser and to go and ahead get it. I accidently opened the wrong drawer and while rummaging through i found a small stack of naked pictures of her. let me make this clear i have no interest in anything except loving and caring for my daugher, but i found myself spending almost half an hour staring at her pics, we lost her mother about 10 years ago and it was like going back in time, she is the spitting image of her. i finally got ahold of myself and put everything back, now i feel beyond guilty for invading her privacy like that and feel i should say something, however im worried that would only serve to make me feel better and make our last days together awkward what do i do? help please

Answer 1

Your daughter is now an adult.  The fact that she has had naked pics taken of her, is not your concern.  And since your finding them was not a malicious act, then perhaps it is best to let sleeping dogs lie.

Your description of "being frozen in time" [that's what I call it] & going back in your mind to your spouse & best friend as you viewed these pics, does not raise any alarm bells with me.  And by the very fact that you were honest with your description, tells me that your account of events is genuine & honest. [i.e. no worries].

Let the event be stalled in time & placed in the repository of your mind.  Continue with your loving spirit for your daughter and continue to accept her just as she is.

Be well.

Answer 2

Staring at naked pictures of your daughter is not good  you need to get help. As soon as you saw them you should have put them quickly back feeling very embarrassed.  You didnt you stared at them. Dont tell her she would freak if she knew you saw the pictures.   she should not stay with you at all!