Dad said no to home schooling :[?

Question

He basically said no you've got to just stick up for yourself :[ Bullying for 3years and he thinks that me saying something to the bullies will change anything!?! :[ I'm feeling very upset and i know it could work being home schooled if we only just came up with something... researched on it more. He also thinks it's like running away. It's not running away at all. I just need some help because i don't know what to do. I wish to be home schooled and he just says no. I'm so upset crying right now :{ Was crying when he talked to me. I just want out of that place and be at home to learn. My brother was bullied at his school he's now 20 but he ran away from school . He refused to go and i'm not saying that at all. I'm in the same situation as my brother was but i'm thinking of my education and i want it but i can't have it in that place! Please someone tell me what to do :[ Maybe someone who's been in this situation themselves? Thanks Guys i'm suppose to be going to school tomorrow by the way, that's when it starts again, so i need to prove to my dad i really don't want to go.and i want to be home schooled its only 2 more years. 2years of home education isn't that bad is it?

Answer 1

Hey Sarah,

bullying is horrible kids can be so very mean and I copletly understand that you dont want t go back to school and be in that situation.

Home schooling a pretty drastic move though adn although you are right in thinking about your education first adn not doing what your brother has done I dont recommend home schooling.

School isn't just about learning math and english its about learning skills that will equip you in later life. Social skills which you jsut wont get in a home schooled environment. Also you have to consider the implications it would have on teh rest of your family, would it mean that you mum or dad would have to give up their jobs to teach you? what would the finacial implication fo that be???

Perhaps you could try talking with dad again and looking at all available options maybe moving to a different school or moving tutor groups or something??

Dont let the bullies win Sarah, they get their kicks from making you feel bad, surround yourself with people who like you adn want to be your friends, dont let the bullies see you crying or affected by what they are doing to you because that is exactly what they feed off.

Be brave and strong and things will be ok. Being bullied will 1 of two things to you, it'll ruin your life or it will make you stronger, choose what you want your lifes path to be.

You'll be fine and just remember to talk to your Dad about everything, if he makes you go back to school then make you tell him day to day what your going through, ims ure he wont want to see his little girl suffer.

Dont shut it all away make sure you speak to your dad or somebody....

Good Luck Honey and stay strong!

Answer 2

hey firstly s***w all these other comments, listen to mine.

do not go to home school it's miserable kk,

but anyway your dad he is the problem he dosen't seem like much of a rolemodel if he was a real father he would really listen to your plead and he would care so much that he would let you obviously he dosen't understand your situation, so why don't you try take control and tell your dad off, he should care about your school life and if you get bullied i have been in this situation tell your dad straight eventually you might not even like your dad if you don't get this depression off your chest.  

Answer 3

it's not just about your not wanting to go- it's about paying for a full time tutor or a parent taking on that responsibility and that is a lot to ask- with school starting, you may be too late, but talk to your dad about transferring to a different school instead

Answer 4

First off you have gotten some really bad advice here.  Of course the first one is the whole "socialization" myth.  You will learn far better socialization being home schooled than you ever could in public school.  After all, look at the socialization your tormentors have learned from the public school system.  Home school children learn real world socialization, not the artificial forced socialization of the public school system.  You get to interact with all types of people in real life situations.  The second myth is that one of your parents will have to quit their job or they will have to hire a tutor.  That is just not true.  I am guessing you are in high school, so most of your work can be done independently.  Both my husband and I worked full time, him days and me midnights, and we home schooled our son.  I am not sure that home schooling would be the best solution to your problems; and your dad is right about how you can't run away from your problems.  You need to find someone you can talk to, and keep trying until you find someone who will listen and take action.  With only 2 years of school left if you do decide to home school you can realistically expect to be finished in less than 1 year.

Answer 5

I was home-schooled all the way and I loved it. You should look up your local School of Distance Education. I did a private program but the government has a public homeschooling system and it should be just like what you do at school already. You have teachers come to visit you and there are many activities where you meet up with other homeschoolers. It is very affordable and your parents have very little or nothing to do with it just as they do with your school now. You can call your teacher at any time for help.

I don't really know how you could convince your dad... Would there be someone at home with you? He may not want you to spend all day at home alone. In which case you may be able to organise studying at your public library for a few hours during the day? If he's worried that you may not keep up with the work while doing it at home get some details from the public homeschooling system. They actually do more and have more support than most people in schools.If he is worried about your social life take up an interactive hobbie. Join a volleyball team perhaps? I didn't do huge amounts of socializing and I'm anything but socialy retarted as a lot of people seem to think homeschooling will make you.

Ask your dad to meet with a homeschooling teacher just to get more information about it. Assure him that if it doesn't work out (but I'm sure it will) that you will go back to school. It's the rest of your life, not his, and if you get a proper education and are happy it shouldnt matter whether you were at home or at school.

I really do hope it works out for you. If you need more help or just someone to talk to please feel free to email me. [e-mail]

Answer 6

1. ignore the bullies, I know it's hard but if you ignore them they should give up. Tell someone about it!

2. Move school if it gets really bad. Just tell your dad you have to move.

3. Don't try and be home-schooled, it's really boring! It's much more fun being and school with your friends!

Answer 7

Hey Sarah its ok.

If you ignore the bullies, then they think it doesnt affect you at all.

i've never really been in your situation so i really cant judge you but i think you should go to school.

Telling the teacher isnt always the best option and sometimes it can make things worse so, dont keep it to your self.

may be tell your freinds or tell someone who the bullies respect and they might help you.

all i can really say is good luck tommorow.

Answer 8

1 advocate. find one.

2 pro bono attorney to sue the school.

3 news reporter to splash your school on the tele so they would be embarrassed into fixing the problem

4 police report after each incident

5 school counsellor

6 community anti violence meeting at the local centre or at your home

Answer 9

You do need to stick up for yourself.. but obviously now you're in need of some help.  You should speak with the school guidance counselor. He or she can help you talk about bullies and maybe change classes around.. offer advice on how to avoid the bullies.   When does this bullying occur - during class or during lunch/between classes?  

The most important thing is that you remember that in the end, school is so SOO important. I just passed my 10 year high school reunion. I didn't go.  High school  was 10 years ago.. I've moved on with my life, new friends, new apartment, a whole new life and didn't even really want to go back.  I owed them nothing.   The bullies in my school turned out to be people who still live at home with mommy and daddy... so yeah.. keep on going to school.

And most important of all, if you stop going to school - that means the bullies have won.  So keep your chin up.  

Answer 10

An alternative solution to this would be to move to another school, but your dad might say that's also running away and not let you.

As far as being bullied going, ignoring the bullies or talking to the bullies doesn't help and neither does talking to the teachers. Those are what people are always told to do though. Maybe it works in ideal situations though so if you think it'll work you can try.

Honestly what I ended up doing was kicking the biggest one hard in the balls while he was surrounded by his friends and grabbing onto me. I got a punch for it and called to the head of year along with him(The head of year who hadn't helped at all before even after being told about bullying) but no-one really picked on me again, either verbally or physically. That might only work though because I'm a guy and it was mostly males being the ones to pick on me, though it was mostly just insults, spreading rumors, namecalling, etc. It does show that violence sometimes does work for good and pacifism sometimes doesn't, though ideally it's the other way around.

Two years of home education can be quite bad. You spend ages without meeting anyone and it gets to you. If you don't have proper tutors (who are very expensive) then you'll not understand a lot of things which you don't get from just reading the books and practicing repeatedly.

Answer 11

Sarah - You can't run away from problems,or you will run for the rest of your life.I was bullied at school because I was short and fat.I stuck it out,and I look back 32 years later,and realise it helped make me become the strong person I am today.

Use the weakness of their bullying,to give you strength.

Let their words & actions flow over you,like water over a rock.  

Answer 12

{big hug} that sucks!  You'd think after your brother he'd have a bit more of a clue {mutters darkly about the stupidity of some people}. It's amazing how many people are advising you about bullying who clearly know nothing about it "stand up for yourself" indeed :-/

As for running away, so what?! Sometimes running away is the smart thing to do, and unless you're going to start picking fights with the bullies (which is a BAD idea) what does he expect you to do? Suddenly not care, after 3 years totally change into a different person who has no feelings at all? You do need to stand up for yourself, but with your own dad rather than the bullies.

Oh, and if anyone pulls the 'it prepares you for real life' argument that it total and utter BS! In real life if you get bullied at work you can go to HR, you can sue the company if they do nothing, you can QUIT and get a better job. I've never put up with bullies or flat out useless bosses, every time I've ended up with one and it's become clear they weren't fixable I've packed up and got a better job with more pay.

Right now, today, try calling Childline 0800 1111. You'll get someone who will listen and be able to give you practical advice.

As for tomorrow, cry off sick? Just refuse to go? It may be that you have to up the stakes to be taken seriously. If it's going to come to that anyway you'd be better off doing it now rather than a couple of months into the school year when it will impact your education more.

Answer 13

Maybe you need to give your  dad the facts about homeschooling.  Like these studies:

http://www.hslda.org/docs/study/rudner19...

http://www.hslda.org/docs/study/comp2001...

http://www.hslda.org/research/ray2003/de...

http://www.hslda.org/docs/nche/000010/20...

I assume you are in high school because you said you only have two more years left.  That's great news!  At this age, you are old enough to take charge of your own schooling.  Go to the library and read 'The Teenage Liberation Handbook' for starters.  Contact local homeschooling groups that you and your dad could talk to.  You can find them by Googling 'your city' and 'homeschool group'.  You could also see about taking classes at a local community college.  Just the basics like English, American History, and Biology.  most homeschoolers take college classes while still in high school.  The best thing to do is to impress on your dad that your current school situation is hindering your education.  You are not running away from the bullies, you are taking control of your education.  You might want to add the fact that homeschoolers routinely get into the college of their choice with scholarships to boot.  As my college admissions officer told me, you have a better chance getting into college as a homeschoolers than as a public schooler.  And that's a pretty big deal considering homeschoolers make up a fraction of students in America.  I would research options and make a presentation to your dad.  Give him the facts, give him things to read, make charts, talk to other homeschoolers, and try to impress on your dad that this is your education you are talking about.  This will affect the rest of your life.  Good Luck!