Dad who can't accept what i want in life

Question

I want to land a job in the film industry(actor,producer, director, etc.) and well...my dad is never understanding about it. i know it's hard to get into the hollywood bussiness but if i work hard, it can happen. My dad is always complaining about how he wants me to become a surgeon or lawyer and blah blah. He always tries to put me down with this dream i have and it just angers me and he always says i waste my time and money on that "stuff"...what can i do to make him stop? or even get that this is the career i want in life?

Answer 1

surgeons and lawyers are getting old.  that's all parents want their child to be! being a lawyer and especially a doctor is a tough field to get into because you have to take alot of training and ALOT of classes for those.

c**p i had an email someone sent me that i was going to show u but i must have deleted it. it was about some turtles who were in a race and others were cheering them on. they were heading for the top of the heel and one by one each turtle couldn't make it. so the crowds were telling the last turtle negative things like "you'll never make it!" "just give up" "its too hard" but the turtle made it. so the others asked the winner how did he do such a thing. turns out the winner was deaf.

the reason i told you this is because you ignore all that stuff your father is saying. you live life for yourself and be who you want to be. not your father. and if it really bothers you, then TELL him, he probably doesnt realize it.

Answer 2

I think your both right, you should aim for what you want to do, however getting into that industry would be a tough nut to crack. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, maybe you could study acting but also study business so if you don't get into producing or whatever you can work at the management end of the industry where there would be work for a qualified person and you would still be working in the industry you love.  

Answer 3

Well the answer depends on your age.

If you are an adult, living on your own (meaning no support from your parents) and you want to or are pursuing something you describe as a dream, then that is your business alone.  You owe your parents no explanation if you ask nothing but support of them.

If you are an older teen you might consider reacting in a positive way.  Do not merely talk about your dream, but actively pursue it.  You can join the theatre group in your school and in your community making sure to try for all facets of what it takes to produce the shows.  Additionally you should consider looking earnestly for a job with a theatre (live shows).  Like a set builder or helping with sales.  Not only will this help you decide what area you are passionate about, but it will demonstrate your sincerity to your dad without reacting poorly to his less than supportive manner.  You can only control you!  Buy your parents tickets to each production and thank them for coming.

When your dad reacts negatively to your dreams you can diffuse it by telling him that you know that people in the film industry, if they are going to really become something of a force in that industry, not only have to have passion, but smarts and now, usually 6 years of education past HS.  They also need to start in high school to try to find colleges with good film schools and see about what it takes to get a scholarship.  You need to promise to keep your grades up and to vigorously go for scholarship.  In that, you will need his help.  Ask for it.

You an tell him that you understand that he wants you to succeed and he worries and for that you are grateful.  You should be because he cares for you enough to give a rip what becomes of you.  He has dreams for you and you have dreams for you.  Ask him how you to can find compromise.  

Sometimes parents come off strong or just downright wrong.  They are people with feelings (albeit, hopefully more controlled) just like you.  If you want to get him on your side and to support you, you will need to prove yourself andappeal to his memory of what it is like to dream and want.  Sometimes parents forget that when they are bust working and doing day to day things.  Refocus him.  He will probably come around.

Answer 4

Go for it. Make sure no one stands in your way the only reason 1 in a thousand make it is because the other 999 give up. If you know you can do it then go for it.

Answer 5

grow up kid.. listen to your dad.

every kid grows up dreaming to be an actor or rock star or pro baller. only 1 in 1000 make it.

study hard and find a real profession

Answer 6

Your dad is trying to get you to see that you need something stable to fall back on.  The movie industry is so unstable, he does not want to see you get your hopes up and then they get shot down like a duck.  Get a degree and also pursue it at the same time.  That way, no matter what happens in the movies, you will always be successful.

Answer 7

don't let your dad put you down ya, i know its easier said then done but whenever he says something about what you wanna do in life just take it and work harder don't let anyone or anything stop you from doing your dream job

Answer 8

so what are you gonna do, are you gonna follow your dreams and if nothing good comes of it then at least you tried, or are you gonna do what your dad wants and wake up 30 years from now regretting the chance you wasted.

Answer 9

You just have to really show him how much you want it. I can't really help you with this question, I can only make you understand why your father is the way he is...

It's because people in the film industry, actors/directors/producers, etc. can all be replaced with a snap of your fingers. You slip up, even once, and someone will be there to take your place before you can say "New York, New York". Believe me, my uncle was in Special Effects, and he was really good, but the moment he found something he couldn't do in the department, he was fired and replaced within a week.

Surgeons, doctors, OBGYNs, etc. can't be replaced that quickly because they went through years and years of schooling in order to become what they are. They also make as much, if not more than, a director/producer/actor, etc.

Answer 10

Stand up to him and end this once and for all! Tell him that no matter what he thinks about your dream it's still going to become a reality. Don't let him walk all over you! Stand up for youself and he'll stop! Good Luck with your career!