Dads being unfair help me

Question

I am turning 13 in feb. and i am going into middle school. My mom already agreed to let me wear makeup and and i went up to my dad and said " dad i am going to wear makeup and my makeup appointment is the 13th ok i will look natural though alright" and he said ok. And then today he was saying ot my mom how he doesn't want me wearing makeup and all this other stuffhow i will look older but don't act older. It is really upsetting me i need something to convince him i am mature and old enough. Pleas help me

Answer 1

Your dad is not being unfair. Maybe he doesn't want you looking like a s***k. You say your make up looks natural so go show him with you wearing it. if you're naturally pretty and have good skin then don't bother.  

Answer 2

just  tell  here

Answer 3

Just explain to him that your a girl, and girls like makeup. But don't go into overkill. Your thirteen, just start out with  fun eye shadow.

Answer 4

u should compromise, just wear some makeup that both u and ur dad agree on

[no offense but i really do think ur a lil too young for make up, it'll damage ur skin]

Answer 5

Maybe you can come up with amount of make-up you will wear along with how you begin to act more maturely.  For example, at 13, I think mascara, a little blush and some lip gloss (not lipstick) would be acceptable.  You don't need foundation or lipstick or eye liner at your age.  The eye shadow is up in the air....maybe a little in a normal, natural color (no blues or greens or funky colors).  In return, you will keep your room clean at all times, do your own laundry and put it away properly, and clean the bathroom.  You will do your homework as soon as you get home and maintain good grades.

Since you are growing into a young lady, you should act like it.  No more whining and no arguing with your parents when you ask to do something and they say no.  It is really immature to argue with your parents.  That doesn't mean you cannot try to negotiate, but learn to do it properly.  For example, if you want to stay the night at Susan's house on Friday and your parents say no, ask them nicely and without attitude if there is something going on on Friday night or on Saturday that you need to attend but don't know about.  If they say no, then ask them if you can negotiate with them.  If they say no, the discussion iso ver.  No whining and no temper tantrums or pouting.  That's immature.

You may have to show your parents you are maturing before they let you have the make-up but maybe if you present them with a plan such as I've come up with, it might work and help show them you are growing up.

Good luck!

Answer 6

you're thirteen?

you don't need make up, hun.

cherish these years,

really - trust me.

I put off wearing make up until sophomore year.

(I'm entering junior year now)

Answer 7

Make up is for what - because you need it or because all your friends wear it?  I cannot think of any good REASON WHY any 13 year old would NEED to wear make up.  

Make up is supposed to be worn to enhance your features - and girls do that to attract BOYS - another reason why you do not need it.  At 13, you really need to be concentrating on school work, not on trying to look older or more "mature".  

I did not wear make up unitl I was 16, had a drivers license, a job, AND my own car.  Now that I am 52, I only wear that expensive pore clogging chemical junk on my face when I dress up.  

Answer 8

Dads are very protective. I know mine was of me! It's all in the way you act. If you don't act mature or handle situations mature then you might not be ready for makeup. Try showing dad that you are mature. Do things around the house with out being told to do them. Try not to argue with your parents. And try not to have any attitude when you hear something they say that you may not like. Try a simple "ok" or "yes sir/maam" and drop it. Eventually something might give. But dont expect your dad to turn over so easily either. He could just be afraid for you. Doesn't want you to look older for fear of all those pyscho kiddo weirdo's out there. Fear of you being abducted or something like that.  

Answer 9

You are entering into that "zone" that parents are so afraid of.  You are going to be a teenager, and they still think you are in diapers (well, not literally, but you know what I mean).  It takes some time to get through to them that you are, in fact, a young lady and not a "little girl" anymore.  What YOU can do to help is work with them.  Understand that they are having a challenge with this, and show them that you are able to handle this change in life.  Simply get very little makeup to start with, skin toned eyeshadow, not too thick mascara...etc.  Then once you start wearing the makeup, and Dad gets over his hang up that you are NOT a little girl anymore, you can start experimenting with colors and more.  Hope this helps.

Answer 10

tell your parents this, the best parenting is letting me do what i want and learn from my mistakes, you should help me too when i need you. That is the best parenting, Go Tell them!