Dance social exclusion?

Question

I am a competitive dancer and I enjoy dancing. I know this sounds weird but I don't enjoy the social aspect of it. I'm very shy and I can't break out of it The people I dance with I just don't click with. I have 2 bff at dance and that's it. But they also hang out with the people I don't click with. It's hard because when there's partners and stuff I'm usually by myself. I don't get it because I have a lot of school friends, but I don't like going to dance because I feel excluded! Any help?

Thanks!

Answer 1

Trust me..you are not alone. I've been dancing for 12 years at the same place and I still have no friends. I have lots and lots of friends at school and other places, but like you I'm shy and have a problem "clicking" with some groups of people. I have gotten to know a couple of the girls in my class a little over the summer by email...but that all changes when we're in person. They hang out with who they want to hang out with.

We don't do much partnering up any more in my class since we're advanced..but occasionally. I remember always being left alone and having to do it with the teacher.

Nowdays we go in partners across the floor..but we each kind of just know our place according to our level.

See if you can get someone's email address to begin with to start getting to know them. Email is a shy person's best friend when it comes to getting to know people. Then slowly transition into person

Answer 2

Maybe your not opening up to them, alot of times we THINK! that we are but if you look at the situation were really not. Why does it matter anyways? Are you not in dance to dance and not make friends? I get what your saying but at least you have friends outside of dance. And 2 inside of dance, so appreciate that, because people like me don't have any.