Date for wedding.?

Question

My fiance and I are getting married and we invited close family and friends to our wedding in Hawaii. She is upset that her brother can't decide on who to bring and thinks that we will have some random girl in our wedding pictures. I agree with her since we specifically told people that it was a small wedding with those that are close to us. Is it right for her brother to bring some random girl to our wedding? How should she / we handle this?

Answer 1

It's really only acceptable for him to go solo unless he is engaged or in a serious relationship.  Sounds like he is not in either of these situations.  I think you both need to talk to him and tell him this is a very small wedding with immediate family and close friends.  You could also say that she might feel left out, since she won't know everyone.  Tell him it would be completely different if it was a large hometown wedding where "and guests" are often added to make it more comfy for the singles.  Maybe allow him to bring a date to any pre-wedding parties or any post-wedding receptions you might have.

Answer 2

Let him bring his date, just dont include her in your professional wedding pics.

Answer 3

no it's not right. i'm in a similar situation, and one of the biggest reasons i want a destination wedding is to rid the ceremony of "dates" or those who only go to weddings to get hammered. talk to her and let her know how you feel. if she won't talk to her brother, do it yourself. i'm sure he'll understand.

Answer 4

If you put "Joe and guest" on the wedding invite then he has every right to bring whoever he wants.  It was your bad for inviting an unnamed stranger.

If you just put "Joe Dirte" on the invitation then the lady doesn't have the right to come if you choose to put your foot down.

Since the wedding is in Hawaii (I assume a destination wedding) then it's doubtful that brother Joe will spend the extra cash to bring some random stranger all the way to it.  If he does, there's no reason she can't just stay in the hotel room while the pictures are being taken.  The time not at the wedding is his time to do as he pleases and if he wants some chick there then it's his business.  And, you can always just tell the photographer to leave her out of pictures.  Other than general crowd shots there's no reason why she would be in wedding pics unless she's asked to join in the portraits.

I would just let it go.  You don't even know that he's bringing somebody yet so there's no reason to throw a fit now.  If his guest proves to be completely off the wall,  THEN it's the time to tell him she can't come to the wedding.  You can do a pre-departure screening.  When he decides that he's taking Annabel Smith then have a dinner or something and invite her to get a measure of what she's like.  If the dinner goes badly then let Joe know that Annabel won't be coming to the reception.  You can make up the usual excuses about budget or space.

Answer 5

Just Keep Telling Him That It's A Really Small Wedding Without Telling Him To Not  Bring Her Keep Insisting That's Only Your Loved Ones Will Be There And He'll Figure It Out On His Own

Answer 6

I think it's okay but she isn't invited in family pictures. Make sure that is stated before the plane even leaves.