Dating a girl at work?

Question

i am a resident doctor. i want to go out with this girl who ia also a resident. i am friendly and flirt with her and am very nice to her as i am with everyone. there is this other resident doc at work that is cocky and arrogant. i hear through the grapvine that she has a crush on him--he ignores her -is cocky with her- doesnt ever flirt with her- pays no attention to her. i am just as attractive as him and he has nothing better than me. this guy is cocky, has 2 tattoos, and an earing that he cannot wear while in the hospital. he also has 2 kids with 2 different woman and doesnt even see the kids or take care of them.

why would she want him and not me? what is going on in her mind and what can i do to attact her--(i am worried because he has started to look at her more and think he may try to hook up with her soon)

Answer 1

It sounds like you want to beat your competition more than you want to get that girl.  Dating at work is always a slippery slope - no matter what your profession.  It's a big world out there - why poach from the work pool?

Answer 2

There's nothing like the taste of company ink.

I'd hit it!

Answer 3

why would she want him, not you? ..you better ask the girl.

but, i'd bet she would also like two kids, like the two other women..

Answer 4

Why bother with her if she hasn't met you half way, even if it is flirting? Maybe she's that type of girl, maybe she has some growing up to do, but no one person can change her except herself. And the guy doesn't sound like much, so maybe that's what she is looking for, maybe she's not wanting someone nice. It sucks, though, dude.

Go find someone worth your time.

Obviously, it might be worth it.

Good luck!

Answer 5

You shouldn't get your meat where you make your bread.  She's got problems if she's going for the wrong kind of man - sounds like she's attracted to jerks.  Don't question it - you won't accept the answers for why some women go for jerks.  And don't waste any more time on trying to attract her because it sounds like you both aren't meant to get together.  Forget  what she looks like because looks FADE.   It doesn't sound like she's got a whole lot of brains, so there's not much in this for you except grief.  Find a woman who's got her head screwed on right - there's plenty of them out there.  You won't find someone who wants the same things as you if you are wasting time on someone who's not interested in you.

Answer 6

Never go to the bathroom in the same room where you eat!

Answer 7

Why don't you take the first step? You don't know if this woman likes this man. Grapevine who? did she say this personally? Unless it comes out of her mouth that she wants anything to do with this man, believe nothing you hear and half of what you see.

Ask her out to a movie or if she wants to accompany you to lunch. Be brave and speak out, stop going off what you hear other people say. She could have just said the man look good and someone took it an ran with it, passing it off as "she wants him". Most good looking men and women assume that just because they don't have a problem getting a date that they can get any man or woman they want too.

Step up, and step out on faith. If you know you have just as much to offer this woman as he does then be confident in this and show her that you're trying to open up her options more. And if she does chose him, then so be it. There are too many single women out in the world to be worried about one who's sniffing behind some dog. A word from the wise, just because he's looking at her it doesn't mean that she's looking at him.