Dating this boy? Advice? Confused? Help.

Question

We went out to the movies first date, talked for almost 5 hours here at my house late into the night for a second date. He called and said well are we going out, cuz there was alot of talk of us actaully being boyfriend/girlfriend. So i guess now were dating. The thing is, is well im very experienced in this situation. He isnt. But i cant seem to get myself to grab his hand sometimes or anything like that. And were very open when we talk. We have talked about s*x like not us doing it just stuff weve done. Well ive done alot, and hes done nothing. Also hes 18 and im turning 16 soon. We really like each other.

What would be the next steps of this relationship?

Is it right for us to date because of our ages?

I dont want to scare him, but would it be mean to try and push a little bit to hold hands or kiss or something.

I really like this guy, but he said something like if you really really liked me you dont show it. How do i show him that?

Remember im a little shy myself and this guy is like something special. Hes almost everything ive ever wanted in a guy. I know im young to say that but its true. I just need some advice on what to do here. If what im doing is right? Any suggestions? Anything. Please.

Answer 1

I kinda had this same problem. You dont want to rush in I agree, but holding his hand isn't too bad, I'd suggest just grabbing it one day. I think its perfectly fine i just got my parents to say i can date my 18 yr old boyfriend so its fine as long as you dont have s*x. I think kisses are either spontaneous or planned. So you should ask your boy what he is ready for. If he can't believe you that you like him then it may be a lost cause but the best way is to be honest, like grab his hand, maybe kiss his hand( it shows that you adore a person),  tell him that you like him, so on. I think your doing this right. Don't go too fast but dont go too slow. Show him you care emotionally by listening, physically and sensually by holding his hand and dancing your fingers along his arm, and just be honest with him.Its the best i can say,,,sorry that was long, I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 2

I'd say the hand holding part isnt a big deal just grab it while your walking or put your arm around him. The kiss will happen when it happens but you've got to make the move for the hand because it doesn't seem like he will.. Remember though when it comes down to you 2 possibly having s*x wait a while since you would appear to be his first you dont want to get into too fast because then he may feel like thats all you wanted.  Just take your time w/ the adult intimacy and enjoy the more childish aspects while you can.

Answer 3

Just ask him straight up want to kiss or hold hands. It's a very strong way but at least he'll get the message.