Dating with 8 months of pregnancy Help!!!!!!1?

Question

Father of my son leave my country 7 months ago, he doesnt help me with money, call me or come to visit me; we have not finished the relationship yet (if we can call it that way). I meet an ex boyfriend several weeks ago, he leave me a year and a half ago because he has a problem on his legs that makes him very short person and he thought I was playing with his feelings I told him If he didn´t trust on me I was agree to finish the relation so we leave it. Today he called me and asked me for take a coffe to "talk" wich I accepted, Is obvious I am pregnated and he knows it, is just I am scared and don´t know if I should go or cancel. Also don´t know what to say about the father of my son and my circunstances, I have right now not much self esteem because all my pregnacy I´ve been alone and I am very sensitive In fact I feel guilty for acept the coffe coz I am still with the father of my son even we are not toguether but haven´t finish the relation, don´t wanna cry if he asks or be like "I am searching father for my son" because I am not. But what to say or what I shouldn´t say and how to act to do not let somebody else hurt me?

Please help me :-( I am really sad about all this

Answer 1

You need to heal mentally, emotionally and physically first.  A man is not necessary to make you a woman. You must be happy and satisfied being you. Being in a relationship with losers will drag you down, so stop and think before you link up with an even bigger snake in the grass!!!!!!! You need to be a person who is ok on their own not needy and scared. The pregnancy hormones are telling you to nest and to provide a protector for your child even if it is the wrong man......

Cancel the date.... if this man wants to see you he can wait until after the baby is born... you will be able to think more clearly then!!!!!!

Answer 2

Go for a coffee but just keep it light there is no need to make any big decisions. it is just a coffee. Good luck.

Answer 3

It sounds like you really need a friend on your side, maybe this guy can help you and be a friend. It's only coffee, it's not a wedding invitation.

Answer 4

Your baby-daddy has skipped town and left you.  The relationship is OVER.  Your midget ex-boyfriend is an insecure psycho who just wants to play with your emotions.  Grow up, get a job, and concentrate on raising your kid.  And stop messing with all these no-good useless men.  

Answer 5

I think you should go. Sounds like right now you need a friend and maybe he's that friend. Whatever happens, happens. If he runs off and freaks out - then you don't want him in your life anyway. Besides - there's a baby involved now and so it's a package deal either way.

I think you should go to coffee. There's nothing you'll regret more later than wondering what "could have" been.

Answer 6

s*x immorality will do this, got the milk without buying the cow. Get that.  First stop s*x.  Second protect son, there is no tie to the man who walked on you, do not let it happen again with someone else.

Answer 7

Just talk.

God love you!

Answer 8

Listen, just because you're eight months preg. and your babby-daddy jumped the border is no reason not to date your midget ex-boyfriiend. God won't get mad. Do whatever will make you happy.  God Bless the U.S.A.

Answer 9

Okay, I went and looked at your other questions. The father is not coming back. He doesn't have a job and neither do you. The father is 25 years older than you. It sounds to me like he went down to Mexico to have some fun and found it with you. Now there's a child coming that he doesn't want to deal with so he skipped town and there's nothing you can do. You're in two different countries. You do not need to complicate your life any more at this time with another man. You do not have a history of making good decisions when it comes to men. You should focus on bringing this baby into the world as healthy as possible. You should also consider what kind of life you can give this child. Adoption is an option.  

Answer 10

No, my dear - you are NOT "still with the father of my son".  This man has obviously gone on with his life, and chooses not to care about you or his child.  The sooner you realize this, the happier you will be.  Clinging on to something that is not there, is not good for your health, the babies health and your peace of mind.   If this "new" man knows you are pregnant, and is still asking you out for coffee, the best thing you can do is to be honest.  If you do not want to go, then don't!  If you do go, then just be open and honest.  Why hide anything or try and make things sound better than they really are.  Treat him as a friend, and be your self and not think of tomorrow or next week or next year.  Try and live in the present moment, being the best person you can be, for the sake of your child and your self.  Do not "act" at all.  Just, be, YOU.

Answer 11

You in wrong section.

Answer 12

First, and foremost, always remember that you have value and worth.  You are not a zero.  Therefore, respect yourself.  God put you here for a reason, not by accident.  Try to find your purpose for being here, even if it takes a lifetime to find the answer to that question.  Do not dwell on your misfortunes, it will only make you sad.  Count your blessings, instead, and name them one by one.  You will find that you do indeed have things to be thankful for...dwell on those.  In life, there are many loves, so choose wisely.  Be honest with all people, because the truth is easier to keep track of.  There is someone who will love you for who you are, but remember - s*x does not equal love.  Love means that the person will be with you when s*x has run its course.  Believe in yourself, respect yourself, and go with the person who is willing to love you.  Your child deserves to be loved, no matter where his biological father is.  The person you love will love your child, as well.  Be patient, be wise, and may all things work together for your happiness.

Answer 13

Suck it up, get a job, raise your kid, and stop whining over the fact that you s***w the first guy that comes along and he was a jerk.

You need to stop crying and take responsibility for spreading your legs.