Dating with an 11 and 6 year old?

Question

I am 31 years old. I was with my partner for 12 years (he fathered both my children) but we broke up about 2 years ago. Now I have a new boyfriend who has been with me for a year. Since we have been together so long do you think it would be ok to introduce him to my daughters?

Answer 1

I'm a bit confused. You've been "with" this guy for a year? And he hasn't met your kids yet??? That's pretty crummy on your part. I've been in that situation before. Did you even tell the guy you have kids? If not, doubly crummy.

I wouldn't know what to think if I was the guy.

Answer 2

Does he know that you have children?  If not, let him know first . . .  then introduce him to the kids . . . it might be too much at one time.  

If he does know you have kids, ask him if he'd like to meet them . . . just his answer should tell you something.

Answer 3

Of course.... You should have already introduced them

Answer 4

Well first of all let me commend you for not just letting random men come in and out of your children's life.  I think it is a good time now, you obviously love this guy and feel safe around him if you want him to meet your children.  You also clearly see a future with him because if not you wouldn't be considering letting him see your children.  Talk to them and talk to him about how you feel about it then let them meet.  I thnk it's a good time.

Answer 5

wow you still never introduced him after a year. well i think that is great that you are taking it slow. yeah i would definatly introduce him to your children. i would slowly start doing activities with him you and your children to start a bonding process because it can be difficult for younger children to accept that there parents are not together anymore. Just do not rush and force things, take things slow and everything should be fine.

Answer 6

First of all, does he comfortable when you talk about them? Do you even talk to him about you're children?

Is you're kids okay with dating him? Make sure you have all the thing together.

Talk to you're kids about it first and if they WANT to meet him, let them.

Don't force them to meet him. If you force them, they'll most likely hate his guts!

Best of Luck!

Hayden ♥

Answer 7

I applaud you for not bringing him around I think a lot of people make the mistake of bringing the person there dating around to early.To answer your question I would say around 6 months but by you dating a year now maybe there are still some red flags so wait until you feel comfortable and then bring him around.