Daughter's vs. cat's happiness?

Question

We recently had to give our cats to a farm. They lived indoors, with the privledge of being allowed to go outside once per day, and sometimes they did, sometimes they didn't want to. Just a few months ago, (we've owned the cats for a couple years) they both started peeing around the house...and I was very concerned about health issues, my husband was annoyed with the smell. My daughter did everything she could, but eventually we decided to take the cats to a farm she volunteers at.

With the rising price of gas, its really hard to drive out there and visit...and ever since we took the cats there several weeks ago, my daughter has basically stopped talking to me. I get the whole, "what's for dinner?" and, "I need a ride to the barn." (riding lessons) but she doesn't confide in my anymore. I understand that she is a teenager now, but I've walked into her room at night to check on her, and she'll be crying. When I ask her why, she replies usually with: (I'm running ou of room so I'll add)

Answer 1

I don't blame her, people can love animals just as much as they love people.  If you're annoyed with the cats, then I wouldn't take them back.  Maybe you could take her to a pet store and buy her 2 kittens (I'm saying 2 because it just makes the kittens so much happier, and they have someone to play with.) Or, you could buy her a different pet.  I really don't know, but I hope this gets worked out.

Answer 2

well i understand where she is coming from but i also understand you had to give her away but maybe try having her watch him 24/7 and clean up all his messes asap and if she cant do it she will relize giving him away was the only way

Answer 3

Well, you could try enlisting the help of someone to train your cats to use a litter box. That way, there isn't pee everywhere and the cats can stay in your house.

Answer 4

Shes just a teenager,

maybe conciling?

Just once or twice,

but then you know what the problem is.

Answer 5

your daughter is just being dramatic.  Don't give in to the childish behavior or she will always be like that.  Cats belong outside.  You did the right thing

Answer 6

get her an indoor cat

Answer 7

I'm sorry but u have 2 do what is best for the cat because as humans we usually look at our happiness u kno we want the cats company we are lonely we dont like not sein dem in dere beds but wot about the cats if they have a better quality of life on the farm leave dem dere tell ur daughter its for the best my mum used 2 say we cant have a dog coz it will be alone all day and we just worried bout wat i wanted but not wat the animal NEEDED ! just leave it she will recover.  Were they males? did starnge cats come to the house as they were most likely scent markin dere territory and neuterin would reduce this.  Hpe this helps.x

Answer 8

Well her heart is broken as she really had bonded with them and i am going thru the same type of thing and it's hard.My nephew lost his mom ' dad and grandma after awhile i got him a cat beans  for him as i had one...Well beans pees and poo's everyday and even though i clean it smells badly and i am too at my wits end.His therapist says it would be too much for my boy so i clean and bleach and spray.She will get over it eventually but you should bring her at least 1 time a week as her heart is broke' and she does not want the cats to think she ditched them...Lots of luck to you and her and it will work out.Talk about it as things like these bring stress and resentment at times.

Answer 9

My mother gave away all of my pets as a child, throughout the ages 5-15 all of my animals were bought, and then taken away. Trust me mom, they get over it.

But i wouldn't get another animal unless you're ready to be with it when it dies.

Children fall in love, but they also get over things and heal alot better then we do.