Daughter and boyfriend help please?

Question

My daughter is gonna try talk to her ex but is convinced it won't change anything. She's going out later and said she's gonna pull him away from everyone else and try talk to him..she came home crying 2 nights ago cause it was "overly weird" Any ideas how to make it easier or less weird? She wants to get back with him but she thinks he won't

Answer 1

As her mum, you should be teaching her a thing or two about pride.

Why does she need to talk to him is she pregnant or what ?

Tell her to hold her head up and leave this boy alone, if he doesn't want her then why does she waste her time and her reputation in whinging about him.

You are her mum, how can you watch her make a fool of herself with him ?

Answer 2

If she tries to chase him down and create some dramatic situation, she is only going to make things worse (and she will likley end up looking foolish).  Encourage her to approach the situation with a little more dignity, and tell her not to seek him out.

If they had a fight, maybe he just needs time to cool off.  If he isn't interested in getting back together, there is nothing she can do about that.  Tell her to wait until he calls her, and then they can maybe talk about things.  But tracking him down, pulling him away from a group, and begging him are not going to help him want to get back together with her, and she will just come across as clingy, desperate, and undignified.

Answer 3

I would suggest to her that she shouldn't do that and that its time to focus on something else and not get hurt anymore.

Answer 4

What?  Why?

I mean honestly.  Cowboy up on this.  She needs to just step back, get herself sorted (which means not thinking about her ex- but instead focusing on who she is, what she wants) and then move forward.  

I'm a guy.  I'll tell you exactly what's going to happen.  She's going to pull him aside, have this talk and what not.  He's either going to get defensive or just plain weird.  She's going to come home without an answer, or without the answer she wants (crying again) and he is going to say in  his head and to his friends 'what a psycho'.

I'm sorry, but that's how it's going to go.  If she wants him back, dump him.  Get away from him and build up her own life so he is the one coming to find her.  He is the one that has to make the first move.

Your daughter is probably your most precious gift.  Remind her of how special she is and how she only needs what she has, not some guy, to be happy.  

Once she gets to that point, she'll have him (and many other men) coming after her.

Good luck.

Answer 5

talk to her ex about what?  s*x? We can't answer your question if you don't tell us.