Daughter dating 1 15 year old at 13?!

Question

my friends daughter was asking about dating her brother's best friend... who is 15.

What's your oppinion? She asked me and personally I think she's a little young even if she is turning 14 in november.

Answer 1

My parents wouldn't allow me to go "out" on a date until I was 15....and that was with a group.  I couldn't actually go out on a date with just a boy until I was 16.  I absolutely HATED the rules at the time, but now I understand why they set them.  I am not the mother to a daughter, and you can bet she'll have the same rules I did.  It's to protect her.....a 13 year old girl is not mature enough to make the right decisions when it comes to dating....They are so impressionable at that age.

I wonder how many 13 yr-old girls became mothers because some slick 15 yr old boy said "I love you baby and you can't get pregnant"...

Answer 2

while the age difference doesn't really bother me (i don't think two years is unreasonable, especially if you trust the kid and think he's nice)

i WOULD caution her about dating her brother's best friend.  this has bad written all over it.  at best the relationship will go well and her brother will feel she's taking away his best friend, and at worst the relationship will go terribly which will cause a divide between all three as the friend wouldn't be able to come over anymore, sister may feel brother is taking sides, etc.

frankly, i wouldn't let her do it.  at the very least, you (your friend) should ask the brother how he feels about all of this

Answer 3

I don't think its too young or too much of an age difference. Two years is fine I think. Anything more though your pushing it. Sometimes you can think of it the other way around. What if your daughter was fifteen and the person she wanted to date was 13. Its almost the same thing.

Answer 4

well what about 18 and fifteen more of an age gap and right on your doorstep stop being blind look further. you will see more s**t than age gaps in dating . we going through global warming the earth cud just CUD END IN 2012  obama the muslim cud become president and your going on about this geez. who really cud care at this point !!!!

Answer 5

Personaly it really isnt that huge of a deal. maybe a 15 year old is a bit much. but if he was 14 thats cool. I myself am 13 and some of my friends that are dating are fine. but they date their own age. u just need to trust that they make the right choices. if they break the rules. they lose the trust. easy as that : )

Answer 6

i think shes very young,the boy might take advantage of her.you should tell your daughter that when the right age comes you will allow her to date.as of now tell her to enjoy things while shes still young.but dont be too harsh on her revenge might happen.hope it helps.

Answer 7

Pfft I don't see what you're worried about. It's a pretty standard relationship age wise. I mean just because she dates him doesn't mean she's going to have s*x with him...

Answer 8

I know what u are going throught my 14 year old wanted to go with a 16 year old, yikes, She asked me as well, its good that she is communicating with you that big, my daugther does too,.

Personally I have always told my daughter, I will trust to the end of the world, but once she breaks that trust, it will be hard to get it back.  In my case I let her go out with him it lasted 2 weeks, she didn't like dating, it wasn't what the TV showed.  Good LUck!

Answer 9

i dont really think it is a good idea and she is a little young to date 16 is a better age

Answer 10

I think its okay. Think...if she's 13 and he's 15, he'll 33 and she'll be 35 in the upcoming years. 2 years isn't a big difference.

Answer 11

I agree too young!  There is a big difference in 13 and 15.  15yo, are more sexually aware, and more 'touchy-feely' for lack of a better word.

I would allow her if she was dating a guy who is 13, and were chaperoned, like to a movie or something.  I think it would also be fine for them to come to my house and watch movies n such; but not let out alone!  

Momma P  

Answer 12

well i would talk to her about the things that would and wouldn't be aloud. make sure she nos what she doing

Answer 13

I think she is too young to be dating anyone.

Answer 14

Lol. Well, I'm 15 and i date my brothers best friend, he's 19.

My parents don't mind though because they have known him for a long time.

It's good because he always stays round my house over-night :-)

P.S For the record, yes, we are sexually active ( and yes my brother does know ! )

Answer 15

im 14 and ive gone on dates with almost 17 year olds..

so yeah i think its fine

just cause hes 16 doesnt mean hes gonna friggen rape her

there basicly the same as 14 year olds, just a bit more mature actually  

Answer 16

I've dated someone 17 and I was 14.

Just make sure she knows her limits.

Answer 17

she just asked for a date, that's it.

dating is going out with the oppposite s*x socially, probably to a restaurant or multiplex.

that is ok.

she needs to mix up with boys.

but it should be clean dating & nothin over the edge.

Answer 18

i don't think she should be dating.

i see dating as something for people over 17years old.

i see no purpose for anyone younger then that dating.  i think at 13 she should be going out in groups, with a curfew and parents knowing where they are.  dating any younger then that is risky.  

Answer 19

So what?

I dated a guy that was 16 when I was 13.

Its not a big deal,

I know a lot of people that are married and are seven years apart.

Its really NOT that big of a deal to be worrying about.

Just make she she knows not to get into drugs and all that kinda stuff,

and not to pressured into have s3x with the guy.