Daughter having accidents?

Question

My 5 year old daughter as started having accidents about 2weeks ago.

She refuses to use the bathroom and pees on the floor or in her clothes!

She said last night while sitting on the couch mommy i need to pee! and she pulled her pants down and sat on the floor and peed! I said Kyra we dont pee on the floor we pee in the toilet! She said oh well! I said Kyra your cleaning it up. When she does this i tell her to take her clothes to the bathroom and wash them out in the sink and put them in the laundry room and her basket and take a clothes and wipe the floor!! SHe has a tantrum about it says you clean!

My husband and I are at the ends of our ropes!

I am pregnant with our 2nd child (3months) but it never bothered her! (she is as excited as ever)

So whats going on?

She does it in public as well and sometimes she will go in to the washroom and she just sits on the toilet and poops and pees her pants and then we tell her to clean it up and she says no and pees again

Answer 1

shes attention seeking

start spanking her  or take away toys and put her in a diaper

she needs stricter punishment and less talk about the baby shes feeling left out and forgotten

Answer 2

even though she seems really excited about the new baby it sounds like she is trying to get attention. she probably feels that u will pay more attention to the new baby instead of her n she isnt used to that. i would definitely start punishing her when she does these things. especially when she tells u no when u tell her to clean it up. she is old enough to be punished. if u dont believe in spanking her then i would put her in time out. or if u do then id spank her butt once then put her in time out for the amount of minutes of her age. for example she is 5 so put her in time out for 5 minutes. make her sit in a chair and tell her not to move or she will be spanked again. she will listen once u show her ur serious.

my mom used to put a small circle in the corner of the wall and make me stick my nose on it for a few minutes depending on my age n if i would move she would add more time or stand there and make me keep my nose on the circle and it worked. honestly try the first punishment of giving her a tap on the butt then making her sit on a chair hopefully that should work. hope i helped =]

Answer 3

Something else must be going on.

Perhaps she lets loose when you are talking about the baby... Or she feels that her position of "the baby" is threatened....Or she may feel that another child will take you away from her , and she's trying to get your attention. She DOES get your attention, even if it's negative.

Try spending time with her alone, and really focus on her. Play the games she loves, laugh with her, etc...

When I was expecting my 2nd child, I took out library books that described mommy's belly getting bigger, and a new baby in the home, etc. The same author of What to Expect When You're Expecting has 2 really good books that my daughter read and examined the pictures. (Shows a cartoon mommy with a baby inside the belly getting bigger every month).

After a few days of spending special time focusing on her, bring out the books and read them together.

Try it...it may help!

Answer 4

She might be doing that in resort to the new baby.  Some kids don't like the idea that a baby is going to take over your time.  Start putting her in pull-ups, when she has an accident, and explain that each time she does, your going to treat her like a baby.  Make a chart for each time she uses the potty.  When she does, reward her by giving her a couple M&M's.  Or at the end of the week, if she has 5 stars(or whatever you use to keep track), you could take her out for icecream, or a new toy.  Hope this helps(:

Answer 5

Start giving her a stricter discipline, personally I would spank her behind, she clearly knows she is wrong and is blatantly disobeying you. OH Well! She is being a brat, I would never let a child get away with pulling her pants down and peeing on the floor. Everyone of her toys would be gone until she straightend out. She is not having accidents she is doing this on purpose and you are allowing her to get away with it. She is telling you what to do you are the parent tell her what she will and won't do and follow through and be consistent.

Answer 6

It sounds very much like a power struggle...she is pushing your buttons and getting attention.

Some suggestions that might help:

1) When she does it just ignore it...do not speak or look at her. Simply take her by the hand (or carry if neccessary) and either sit her at the dinner table (make sure no toys or things to fiddle with are there) or sit her in her room and class the door. If she moves from chair or from her room just silently take her back. There's no rush to clean up so deal with removing her first. By not acknowledging her you are showing control and she is not getting the attention she wants. First few goes she may scream the place down, get up and down etc to test you and see how far you'll go. But just keep repeating.

2) Give her plain knickers and clothes-eg not ones with her fave characters on...have a few that are special ones that you kep in box out of reach-tell her they are for when she learns to be dry again.

3) Praise her like a mad woman when she does use the toilet or when shes been dry for a couple of hours. Encourage family to do the same.

4) Spend time with her...when she is behaving ensure you spend one to one time or family time so its not al discipline and power struggle...go for walks, parks etc...just plain simple fun :)

good luck!