Daughter having her period?

Question

I'm a single father of a 12-yr-old daughter & a 7-yr-old son. My daughter will be reaching puberty soon & will have her period. As

a male, how do I handle this? Do I talk with her now about what

will eventually happen or do I wait until she has it & she comes to

be about it? Being a man, I'm not really sure what I can say to her

except that it's normal, every girl has it & it happens every month. Tips?

Answer 1

She's 12.  Chances are, she already knows all about it.  Put a package of maxi pads in her bathroom.  You know your kid.  If you think she'll be mortified to have her dad talking to her about puberty, then just put the pads in her bathroom without saying a word.  If the two of you have an open relationship, then put the pads in her bathroom, then tell her that they are there and ask her if she has any questions.

I'm sure you have females somewhere in your life (mom, sister, friend) who can help you out.  

Answer 2

Get her pads and put them in a cupboard in the washroom. Sit down and tell her basically what you just said. Tell her that she's reaching puberty, and is going to go through a few changes. Let her know that it is okay, and that if she ever needs the pads, they will be in that drawer. Also, be sure to get midol/ tylenol/ advil, etc. in case she has cramps.

Best of luck.

P.S. Tell her not to wear white pants!

Edit: Use your sisters to take her bra shopping...this you can handle on your own.

Answer 3

the best thing to do is buy some pads to put in the bathroom, (just in case she starts soon!) and ask her if she has any questions...if she is a little hesitant to talk about it with you, maybe have a female family member help you, or maybe even the mom of a friend of hers...Good Luck!!

Answer 4

My mom or dad never told me about it...I just found out by myself. But if you don't feel comfortable talking to he about it, buy a book that is meant for girls, puberty, and growing up. And leave thick pads in her bathroom.

Answer 5

First off, ask if she has had any s*x ed classes in school. My daughter had them when she was 12, so your daughter may have had those classes as well. If she has, then just talk to her about what she can expect to happen. That it is very natural, and means she is becoming a woman. If not, it may make it a bit awkward to start the conversation, but have it anyway. And tell her what you said here. Tell her to come to you with questions and problems. Let her know that you are comfortable discussing anything with her. You can also tell her that if she isn't comfortable talking with you, she can always call her aunts.  

Answer 6

If you go to the book store, they have some books in the kids section or p*****n section, that talk about puberty for girls.  I have a book, called Chicken Soup For the Girl's Soul, which has some stories about puberty in it, but also other stories that can help your daughter out too.  Do you have any female friends that your daughter is close too?  You could ask them if they could help you out with "the talk."  I am 11 and a half, and I am guessing that some of your daughter's friends have had or have talked about periods, as have mine.  Set her down, alone, with out your son, and tell her it is a normal part of a girl's life and that all women have it.  Buy her some pads that she can keep in her bathroom cabinet or drawer just in case it comes and she doesn't want to tell you right away.  Periodically, check the box to see how many pads are left, and when you notice she is running low, buy another box and leave it under the counter for her. It is like a secret santa present!  Lol!

Answer 7

hehe

well i think she should have started puberty alreadii

since she learn health at school just tell her stuff about pubery and let her fell confortable with u tell her wen she has her period she should't bee afarid to come and ask u to go buy a pad...wen she need a bra u cAN TAKE HER TO THE MALL AND SHE CAN DO HER OWN SHOPPING??

Answer 8

Actually, that sounds fine - she'll start to bleed and may feel uncomfortable (cramps) but can take Advil/anti-inflammatories for it. It's normal, every girl has it and it'll happen every month. If you have a female family member who could also talk to her, that might help too - but stepping up to the plate and doing it yourself sounds fine. Try to get through that it's not embarrassing or shameful, that you're comfortable talking about it and hopefully she will be too. I'd say speak to her before it happens, so she doesn't discover that she's bleeding some day and get scared or anxious. If she expects it, she can be more prepared for it.

If you want, check your local bookstore for books on young girls and puberty - some are written to speak directly to young kids, it might help her out to read about it on her own time and get comfortable with the changes she'll go through.  

Answer 9

Let her come to you. Keep the doors open too. you can start talking to her about some changes in her life. read up on it. be educated when she needs it the most. be there to support her. also you will want to help her with buying pads and putting them under the sink maybe. i really didnt talk much to my dad abuot it or my mom. if she is not comofortable talking to you just make sure she has the money to buy the necessary items. When it comes to s*x my mom gave me a pamphlet on birthcontrol. really didnt talk to me about it much but said if there was anything i wanted to know that there was a clinic i could go and ask at any time. She can also talk to her dr. you can start talking to her now and trying to be open with her but give her some space. she will need it. Just let her know that you are there for her when ever she needs it. Its going to get a little rocky with emotions and just keep strong. Keep her educated on everything so she knows what her choices are and her responsibilitys when it comes the time. any other help just e-mail me at [e-mail] i can help if you have any other questions or need any help talking to her.  

Answer 10

You should explain to her what happens. Let her know that you understand and that she doesn't have to be embarrassed. That will make it easier for her when the time comes.

Answer 11

I feel bad for you.  I think the best thing you can do is maby get her to talk to an aunt or a women she can look up to.  Its hard being a single father and having daughters.  She can also sign up for a big sister program??  But maby get an aunt of a female friend to talk to her and tell her about this stuff and they can go out and buy some pads just in case and she can tell her how to use everything and she can tel your daughter that iff she has any questions or need help just to let her know.  you can just tell her iff you ever want oto talka bout something personal you can just let me know.  But make sure she knows that this aunt or friend will be there all the time and her aunt or female friend can go shopping with her iff she ever needs the suplies cause im a 13 year old girl and it would be hard to talk to my dad about these things.  I hope i helped and good luck.  and tell her aunt or female friend once she starts to tell you so you can be aware.

Answer 12

I wouldn't wait until it happens because if she is not expecting it, she may freak out.  Plus by informing her now, you will be showing her that she can talk to you about issues, which is always better than sending her the message that you don't want to talk to her.

There is no need to give too much information at first.  Just tell her that as she grows into a young lady, this is what will happen and tell her she doesn't have to be afraid or ashamed.  That you can go shopping for whatever she needs or she can give you a note perhaps.

Is there an aunt or close family friend who can help in the beginning?