Daughter is in kindergarten and she got suspended?

Question

my daughter was in class and was pulling another child off a chair by his pant leg she has told me many times that she was not trying to pull his pants off but the princable suspended my kid i am the pta pres and im at the school all the time and she didnt even call me to tell me she called the dad idont think she should have went that far to suspend her what should i do

Answer 1

You need to have a talk with your daughter about her behaviour. Parents love to think their kids are angels, and are always ready to have words with the principles and teachers as if its their fault your child is behaving badly. Im sure they wouldnt have suspended her for nothing.

edit* Pulling a child off a chair might not sound serious to u, but what if the kid fell and hit his head, u dont know if the child has some pre existing condition that would it dangerous for him to fall down. Believe me if someone pulled your daughter off a chair and she ended up with a busted lip or concussion u would be singing a whole different tune. The suspension sounds like it was justified to me. Just explain to your daughter that pulling someone off a chair can hurt them, dont do it again. simple as that.

Answer 2

Just one of the reasons why I support homeschooling.  Having a principle with such stupidity is really annoying.

Answer 3

Complain!!! This is soo silly. Everyone is so worried about sexual harrasment suits that they take things to extremes!! Talk to the supperintendent. He would be the boss of the principle. Good luck Just remember school should be out soon!

Answer 4

OMG SHE'S N KINDERGARTEN  U GO PULL THAT PRINCIPAL OFF HER CHAIR LIKE UR KID LOL ! BUT IF THIS CONTINUES TALK TO UR KID AND THEN TALK TO THE PRINCIPAL BECAUSE WHO KNOWS WAT THAT OTHER CHILD DID TO MAKE YOUR KID PULL THEM OFF THEIR CHAIR

Answer 5

That is exactly the sort of thing to take to the next level up - here it's the superintendent. You're right - that was out of line.

My daughter was suspended in the 2nd grade for grabbing another boy's privates (this wasn't the first time). It helped "wake her up" that it was not appropriate and I was in coordination with the teacher and principal the whole time. In fact, I made them give her silent lunch for a week, too!

I have seen kindergartners get suspended - but not for something as little as this. It was for hitting other students (a lot, not like a little mad smack and then a "sorry") and the worst I've seen was a kindergartner with a mouth a sailor would be ashamed of.

This was a good way to alienate a hardworking volunteer and all around the principals' fault. If you do not get success with a higher level of authority, get your kid transferred to another public school.

Answer 6

Well first, I would try to teach my daughter to keep her hands to herself.  She's old enough to be able to understand that repeatedly yanking on a peer's pant leg is unacceptable.

Maybe she thought there would be drama on campus so she called someone that was a little removed from the situation.

I don't think that there is much you can do.  

Your daughter was doing something she shouldn't have been doing.  

Something that could have endangered the other child and left the school liable and the principle used her/his discresion for a suitable punishment.  

I think the only thing left for you to do is make your daughter understand why she was sent home and that it's not the principle "just being mean"....there are rules and she needs to follow them, especially if they are there to protect her peers.

Imagine if it was your daughter being pulled off a chair...

It'd be a pretty big deal huh?

As far as the principal, you may mention that the next time there is an issue with your daughter, that you should be the primary contact as your husband can't be disturbed at work unless it's an emergency.  she could have come to you...but maybe there's a reason she didn't.

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Do you know for sure it was a little thing?  Did the other kid hit the floor head first or just fall on his butt?  All I know is if it was my kid being yanked off the chair...I'd have a problem with it.  

And sometimes parents have a tendency to minimize the issue when it involves the punishment of their own child....your principal may not be the sharpest tool in the shed...but rules are important, especially if an injured child or a lawsuit are what may result.

Better to nip it in the bud and send the troublemaker home...sending in clear loud message that breaking the rules won't be tolerated.

Answer 7

Well what did you do to pisz the principal off, lol. Doesn't sound fair to me. Your daughter shouldn't have been so severely punished if she is a normally well-behaved child. I don't know what you can do since school is almost out aside from speaking to the principal.

Answer 8

Ok...first of all...my answer comes from the perspective of a teacher and not a parent.  I agree that this seems a bit extreme from the facts that you have laid out here.  However, is she repeatedly putting her hands on other people?  This may be the proverbial "straw that broke the camels back."  Sometimes a suspension can come from a culmination of things and not one single event.  Secondly, I would talk to the principal and explain that since you have a working relationship with the school you would appreciate it if they called you first and "the dad" second.  Who is listed first on the emergency card?  If you filled it out with his info. first they may have just called the first number listed.

Answer 9

omg that i rediculous