Daughter pretended that she couldn't speak english

Question

Yesterday was the first day of school and already I have calls from teachers. IT was at least somewhat amusing trying to convince my daughter's teachers that yes, she speaks and understands English. (Aarently whenever my daughter was asked a question yesterday; she would clap her hands and say yes) I'm not really sure how to adress this, Ifind it is funny but my daughter is 10 and it is time for her to grow up.Also that is no way to treat those in an authority position. I expect my daughter to show respect to adults at all times. Am I making something out of nothing?

Answer 1

Haha. Your daughter is either a bored prankster of the worst form, or  prolly also likes to write stories/draw and make elaborate things. if she doesn't yet, she needs to learn to coz, she is on the way to becoming a compulsive liar with complete disregard for authority or others' feelings. Yes, it is a big deal.  Don't let it go un-talked about.

Answer 2

Is she special needs ?

That's the sort of behavior they display, especially when they are anxious.

Have her checked for Autism or a learning disability.

No normal child would behavior like that, not at her age anyway.

She has only embarrassed herself and now on Monday everyone will refer to her as the " r****d " or something along those lines.  

Answer 3

no you are right that is unacceptable! and she may have a disorder if she is having that behavior at 10 years old instead of at 5

Answer 4

awesome :)

She's 10? Weird, I went to school when I was 6.

Answer 5

WOW your daughter is wanting to act as if she is 4 and not 10. Not a good way to start the school year out . I do not see where it is amusing when she is 10. At the age of 10 she should know better. You say you expect her to show respect to adults but you say this is amusing also, I do not see where she is showing respect at all.

You really need to sit her down and have a very long talk with this young lady and tell her this is way out of line and you will not put up with. Tell her you did not raise her that way and it was not respectful at all.

Sorry if this sounds harsh and mean but she is 10 not 4.

Good Luck

Answer 6

I think its somethingand you should make it a big deal. Your daughter may have thought it was a funny trick to play but I don't think it was. You should talk to her about it and help her understand that she needs to respect adults and that school is not the place to play around. Save that fro recess.  

Answer 7

sounds like she was nervuos and trying to show off fo rhte other kids. absolutely unacceptable.

can you show up in class? just stand there for a minute and have the teacher ask her a question. she would never do that in front of you. and by showing up you are visually transfering the power from you to the teacher.

she needs a severe talking to and some sort of punishment. being goofy and funny and silly is fine. but the whole day she was disruptive and disrepectful. there is no call for that in school.

Answer 8

Even though this does seem funny I think this could be a bigger issue than what it seems. I think you should talk to your daughter to see what is going on. She might just be looking for attention or there might be some issues at school.  

Answer 9

That may be funny to do with friends on the playground, but not in a classroom setting. It is disruptive to other kids in the class. You address it by bring it to her attention that being the class clown is not funny. Seems like she is trying to get negative attention.

Answer 10

While this may be a funny story to tell relatives over dinner in a few years, and certainly qualifies as a funny prank, you should let your daughter know that this is not acceptable behavior, and that you expect more from her. With a child of 10, sending that kind of message usually requires punishment. What kind depends on whether or not this is the first time she's done something like this. Obviously you must dole out punishment in a consistent, predictable manner if you want it to be effective.

You should not let on that you find it clever or amusing in any way. You can tell her that after she gets into Harvard.

Answer 11

I would have a nice long chat with your daughter. Maybe she's scared of something or someone in her class. Did she have problems last year in school?  Make an appointment with the school's Guidance Counselor for help.  

Good luck!

(As for your answer, Cocker S, it's the first day back to school after summer vacation.)

(Also, the school year starts in August and ends in May, in some Southern States.)

Answer 12

There in nothing funny about getting a call from the school on the first day of school. You need to straighten her out and fast.

Answer 13

Make sure your daughter does not catch that you find it funny! Maybe she was nervous or self  conscious and this was her way of dealing with it.

You could acknowledge that you understand her feelings but that this is not acceptable behavior and will not be tolerated. It is not really about respect..I think of it more as basic conduct. The teachers have to respect her too..we all must respect each other.

Answer 14

It definitely is something. There are alot of things that could make her do this. The best way to deal with it is if she does it again or repeatadley, talk to your doctor. It may be a recent move, pet/family member passing away, ect....I mean I'm no expert but I have heard of these things.

Answer 15

What school starts on a Saturday in August?

I am assuming that she is in a new school.  Age 10 is usually the 5th grade here in the USA.

School usually starts the Tuesday after Labor Day or the Monday before Labor Day.  I am sure that there is some further variation around the country.  But I cannot imagine any school starting on a Saturday or even having class on a Saturday.

To answer your question directly, she could benefit form going over your knee with panties down.

Answer 16

I hate yahoo answers because, well, anybody is allowed to answer.

You should sit down with your daughter, and ask her why she did this. It isn't necessarily a big deal, but if she's acting out to express some kind of need, addressing that need is important. If she is nervous, or she was doing it to show off, or whatever, let her teachers know so that the teachers can deal with it then and there and not find the need to call you.

Additionally, I'm assuming this isn't any of the bigger disorders (such as a disorder within the autism spectrum, ADHD of any form, simply because she is passed the general diagnostic age for it. Nor does she show real symptoms of any of them.

If there was a fairly bad head injury, she could have foreign language syndrome, or some derivative.

Remember, though, the most important thing is for you and your daughter to keep open communication going. This will pay off down the line, especially when she enters the dreaded teenager age.  

Answer 17

No you are right in that she should know better tat this age. I would find out why she did this and exactly what was going thru her mind at the time. This is not appropriate and she should apologize to the Teachers and you should find an appropriate lesson to be learned out of all of this. How embarassing for you too for her to do this. Has she done anything like this before?