Daughter to boyfriends house?

Question

My daughter is almost 15 and has her first boyfriend also 15. He lives in town and we live about 2 miles from town. She always wants to go to his house really they hang outside with a group of kids but always wants to go there. I told her that I don't want her to go to his area all the time that he needs to come over here. I even said that I would make it easy for him and would pick him up. My husband says that if he really likes her he can get here and we will drive him home. She is so pissed at me since I wont let her always go there do you think I'm wrong and any ideas of what to do?

Answer 1

Maybe you could try to talk to her about it.

Explain that you love her soo much, and are just worried.

It's not that you don't trust her right?

Also, maybe you could send her over there with some friends??

That way, others are around them?

I don't know.

Good luck!!  

Answer 2

If she was my daughter then she would just have to be mad at me. She is 15 and if you don't want her to do something, then she should not do it. I think that it is a good ideal for him to come to your home that way you can keep an eye on them. You never know they may not be doing anything but you never know. I would let her go sometimes but not all the time. They could switch out. Everything will work out you will see..

Answer 3

No, cause you wanna know why she wants to go over there all the time, cause they prolly full around and maybe do other bad stuff with the kids or play music and hang, but cant do that at her own house. I was 15 once and know what kids have on their minds, and its so worse in todays youth, everyone wanting to have s*x and drink and do drugs its horrible. I would deff have him come over to your house more, Im sorry but if he has a problem with it then he only wants to do one thing and he knows he cant do that at your house. If it cant be fair game then he is obviously not the right bf for her. Let her pout and whine..your only protacting her form getting into trouble and getting pregnant and trying bad things...there is nothing wrong with protecting your child..she will thank you later and do the same with her child.

Answer 4

No you are not wrong. You are correct. Tell her she shouldnt be upset. That this way you are making sure he really likes her. That if he is willing to meet her parents (you) and hang out in front of her parents then he is probably a decent guy who really likes her and isnt just using her. Tell her that with her female friends they hang over her house and she hangs over their house because clearly they like each other.

You are 100% right.

Answer 5

I agree with you 100%.  There has got to be a reason she always wants to go there (I suspect less adult supervision).  Besides, having him come over to your house occasionally will allow you to get to know her boyfriend better (and decide if you even want her dating him) - a good thing.  You are being very reasonable about it, stand your ground on this one.  Good luck!!

Answer 6

ahhh this is a tuffy..im 16 and i dont think your wrong ut she probably doesnt see all this she probasbly thinks u dnt want her too c this boy..just tell her for ever 2 or 3 times she goes thier he comes to ur house once even if its just for dinner...copermise..make it seem like she won

Answer 7

I have a 15 yr.old daughter too, and we and her boyfriend live in town(although on opposite sides of town).  Although she is not allowed to "date" (in a car, with her boyfreind with out parental supervision ect.) we do allow them to spend time together IF there is adult supervision.  We let her go to church with him and his mother, and to a church youth group on Wednesday evenings, and he has been here a few times for dinner and do school projects with her, but they are never left alone!  If the boy's parent's are home, and IF his parent's are on the same page as you regarding "alone time" (you know.....that there is NOT to be any!) it couldn't hurt.  Otherwise, you have concerns about them making plans behind your back and getting into trouble!  Tell her you can compromise and every other "visit" needs to be at your house or not all.  She should be grateful for that time she gets with her boyfriend, and should be willing to meet you half way.  If not, then she'll just have to be happy seeing the boy at school!

Answer 8

no, you are not wrong.  

How does she get to his house so much?

  I'd stop driving her and tell her that she needs to take turns and have him visit.

Answer 9

Shouldn't you and your daughter be concentrating in school and learning about the facts of life?  

Answer 10

I would venture a guess and say that there is not a lot of supervision there, and if it was my daughter, I would not let her go at all, unless I knew the parents and had confidence that the kids would be supervised.  Two 15 year olds with raging hormones left to their own devices is only asking for trouble.

Answer 11

No, I don't think you are wrong - it sounds fair enough that if she goes over there most of the time, he should have to come over your house some of the time.

Most teenagers just don't like being around their parents and no matter what will feel like their privacy is being invaded when they are at home - so just stick to what you said and require him to come over sometimes.  

Answer 12

No you are not wrong, my daughter is 15 as well.  I had a similar situation, I gave her two days a week she could, preset days with preset times and rules.  If she chose another outing with him, she gave up one of those days.  He eventually lost interest and moved on, she was devastated for a week, but hey, she is only 15, she doesn't need to spending all the time with a boy.