Daughter using my wife's lingerie quandy.?

Question

My wife told me today that our daughter, who graduates from middle school in a few weeks, asked for her own garter belt and stockings for the graduation dance. My well-educated wife said that she let our daughter borrow one of her garters and stockings before taking her to purchase one of her own. Now I would like to think our daughter is very smart for her age. She gets very good grades, a B+ avg., but tends to follow the crowd to much, I think. We've both talked to her about s*x-education and the results of careless actions. She seems to have a level head on her shoulders, but of course, as her father, I know what boys want. Especially when the garter belt that my wife loanded to her is one I ask my wife to wear during our bed room sessions. Am I over reacting?

Answer 1

I'd feel odd letting my daughter wear a garter belt that I want my wife to waer to bed so just let her get her own as it might fit better anyway

Answer 2

She is barely graduating middle school and she is wanting to wear womens lingerie...??? Thats something I wouldnt let my daughter wear..no way...

Answer 3

Yes, it's the style right now.

Answer 4

becaue you iewthese tems sexually your inprinting that on your daughters innocence , my girls are 9 yr old they dont know alot about s*x cos i think there to young ! but they have all underwear includeing garters and stockings as its summer and its to hot for tights

Answer 5

awk-ward, I would never have asked my mom to borrow that stuff. But no you are feeling normal. I can see how that could disturb you. Just try really hard NOT to think about it. I think my husband is a little more weird about stuff like that then you are. My husband cannot stand that I let our kids sleep in our bed sometimes. Because we have s*x there and it's just wierd. I could not stop laughing at him and he got mad. So just relax, girls like to look cute for the boys. It's only going to get worse.

Answer 6

a MIDDLE SCHOOL girl has no need to be wearing a garter belt and stockings, she can wear panty hose, and as no one needs to be seeing where a garter would go  she doesnt need to be wearing one at all.

found: he is her FATHER he has every right to be concerned about it and  if you read any more into it then that then maybe YOU ought to be the one concerned, because that would make YOU the perverted one.

Answer 7

No I do not think that you are over reacting. I think that your wife who is educated should talk to her about being a leader. I also think that your daughter is too young for a garter belt, while she may be mature enough to handle it in your opinion, young boys may have another opinion or idea about it! How could it be perceived?

Answer 8

over reacting ? you bet you are not !! confiscate it ! a mother is always on the soft side so she will think it is a once off thing and it doesn't mean any harm.

But teenagers are smart like you say including in this subject, soon she will decide to wear it to go to school, just because "Mommy doesn't mind" , tell her girlfriends so she feels proud and grown up and it won't take long before the girlfriends mention it to the boys. Maybe I am too old fashion but better that, than taking chances and at her age.

As a dad put your foot down firmly but kindly and by the way you don't have to explain to her the reason, I would not if I were you.

Middle school you said ? ask her to have patience after a year or 2 in high school maybe

Hope it helps

Answer 9

you need to chill, dad, i doubt your daughter is thinking of it the same way you are.

Answer 10

I think you should let your wife handle it and you should stay as far away from it as possible.  Very far away.  You even being curious about it (esp for a middle school-er) makes me sick to my stomach.  

Move on.

Answer 11

From a womens point of view I think that you are over-reacting.  I personally think that garters and stocking are more comfortable than pantyhose.  So much so that I don't buy pantyhose.  To me (and I've felt this way since I was a teenager) a garterbelt's purpose is to hold up my stockings.  Now that I'm married it is an added bonus that my hubby likes them, but he is not the reason I wear them.

Answer 12

Your daughter asked to wear the garter belt on prom night so her boyfriend (or date) will see how s**y she looks and be attracted to her.

Let's not be naive, we all know what prom night entails...hopefully. It's a night to celebrate the coming of age for youngsters. And what better way to show you are all grown up than by doing adult things like drinking and having s*x?

You know what the deal is...The best you can do is to make sure she knows that a condom is required for the guy if he wants to engage in sexual intercourse with her. There's not much you can do for oral s*x, though.

Guys see lingerie as a sexual thing. Women see lingerie as a sexual thing. There's no room to say that lingerie is designed and used for purely functional clothing needs. It's not. Anyone who tries to argue the point is being dishonest.

Answer 13

No, you are not over reacting. Don't they still make pantyhose?

Answer 14

Yes - totally - you are imprinting your own reaction to a garter belt onto your daughter's pretty normal request to have one to wear to a prom.  Note - YOU ask your wife to wear it during bedroom sessions - so the sexual nature of this item of underwear is only huge to you - to women garters and stockings are an alternative to tights...  some women prefer one to the other, but the manageress who wears a garterbelt and stockings to work isn't secretly fantasising about having s*x with every man who walks by....

Some men get hugely turned on by women's bras and knickers - would you make a fuss about your daughter wearing these items if they were what lit your fuse with your wife?