Daughter wants to do A Levels but can't/won't decide where to to these. Will not discuss it either. Ideas?

Question

My daughter is awaiting her GCSE results. She is hoping to do A Levels which she can do at her current school or at sixth-form college. She has a provisional place at both but cannot decide. More than that, she will not discuss the options with me or her mother. She gets very angry when pressed. We have not been hassling her about it and have simply offered occasional advice when she has brought it up, fearing an awaul row. She has been away staying with relatives but will have to make a choice on her return. What should we/she do?

Answer 1

just assure her she cant talk about anything dont force it shes proabaly stressing so just lay low

Answer 2

She's probably stressing about the results. Let her decide when she knows what results she's got. I imagine the provisional places are based on her results, so wait an see what her options are.

Answer 3

I agree . The GCSE results will be all she can think about right now. No decisions can be made until she knows what they are. Hopefully she will have done well, and will be on cloud 9 when she gets them. I bet she will be more than happy to discuss her options then, especially if you think of a nice treat to celebrate her success - a meal out, or so many £ per grade?

Answer 4

having been through this myself, maybe she is worrying about her results and are you sure she wants to do a levels?

maybe she is just letting you think this because this is what she thinks you want her to do, sometimes i feel the only reason i went 2 uni was because my family were expecting it of me, hence i only did 1 year.

let her kno that  its completely her decision and you will be proud of her no matter what.maybe she is worried if the results arnt as high as hoped she will have let you and your wife down.

just tell her you love her and all will be well.

good luck to you both  

Answer 5

Perhaps she is waiting to decide til after she gets her results? It's probably quite hard deciding between a new place and one that you've become familier with, but i suspect she's talked it over with her friends. Maybe she's worried about her results, and doesn't want to choose between the 6th forms until she knows for sure that they will take her?

It's still a while until results day, and after that she can enrole, so it's not like she has to decide right now =)

Its good that you've not been hassling her, but if you're worried maybe you should talk to her? Or you could write her a note/letter, that way you're leaving it up to her to bring it up or not. With a letter, it's less likely you'll end up arguing. Just let her know that you're happy with whatever she chooses, and you know it's her decision, but that she needs to make it soon =)

Hope that's vaguely helpful