Day in and day out..the same?

Question

do you ever have one of those days where you are a stay at home mother and the days are constanly the same with a few expections here and there...I am having one of those days!! I love being a stay at home mother and would not change a thing. I have a 10 yr old daughter and 2 yr old son and i am limited with taking my 2 yr old son to a lot of places..he is a whiner...anybody on the same page with me?

Answer 1

Maybe it's your parenting skills that are the problem, a whinner is created not born. Think about it. You should get of the computer and take care of your son, teach him and never drag him down. Sounds like you rather be single without kids.

Answer 2

I hear you! Lol, my daughter is 19 months and I'm a SAHM myself, and it just seems like I'm stuck on a carousel, lol. Cooking the same thing, watching the same shows, doing the same dishes, lol. Cleaning the same messes. My daughter loves going out so much she whines when we stay home, which is just about everyday, lol, especially when we're low on money. My bf wants me to get a job, but I want to have another baby and focus on raising my children right, which is unfortunately not too important to too many people these days. Not to mention that my entire salary if I go back to work part time would go to a baby sitter, so I just don't think it's worth it. We're new to my bf's hometown, so I don't even have friends to hang with, lol. Gets lonely, but it'll be alright :) Have a good day!

Answer 3

Totally!  I started working when my baby was 10 months and although I loved being with her all the time, it was much easier at that age than it is now, she's 16 months old and we are embarking on the "Terrible Twos"!

Answer 4

I'm a single mom who works full time, and I have those same kinds of days!  It's always, get up, get ready, get daughter up, get her ready, go to sitter's, go to work, pick her up, go home - then shopping, laundry, bath if needed, and dinner.  Same old, same old...  In the summer it's nice, my younger siblings play sports so I try to get out and go to some games.  At least I'm still with my daughter, but we get out of the same environment (not that she doesn't already, she gets out a lot with the sitter:)  But like you said, it's hard cuz they don't always behave so you can go out and do something different!  I always end up missing most of the games cuz I'm keeping an eye on my daughter since she won't sit still and watch them.  But it's still a little bit of a change of pace.  Getting out and doing more is something I need to start working on myself, for both me and my daughter.

Answer 5

Yes I do understand what you mean. I have a now 1 YO and when she was a bit younger it was really hard somedays. She is a great baby, loves to go out and see things and be near people. But when she was littler if was tired she was miserable and you really couldn't have her out. It was hard becasue her nap schedule was a long nap right after breakfast then she'd be up for lunch and about an hour, then another 1 hour nap; sometimes longer. So if I did want to go anywhere I couldn't until like 3:00 and at that point I was making dinner and too tired myself. It got really monotonious. I love her to death and now that she is bigger its wayy easier. I do also understand that some kids are naturally whiny. My brother was like that. Literally for 6 months straight when he was bout 1 ALL he said was "NO". he called people, places things ect all "no". So that will tell you what kind of hellion he was LOL. I get it. The only thing you CAN do is take a break every once in a while. I actually found a daycare that would allow me to bring her whenever I needed some time if I gave them 1-2 days notice (she is a good friend that has a daycare and my daughter knows her well). If you have something like that it can be a lifesaver

Answer 6

just ignore harkins, i know how u feel

its a major epidemic with women, they tend to lose thier identity with motherhood, do you have the opportunity to take up a hobby or maybe take up baby and me classes at the local ymca or something of the sort with other mothers, swim classes are great too

whining has nothing to do with parenting, as shocking as it is, children are born with thier own personalities, enviroment plays a factor in how those personalities evolve but they have their own little identity from birth, so thats just stupid to think otherwise...kids are not robots who function EXACTLY how we teach them...dont i wish???

point is, u need a break from being mommy and let urself be (insert name) sometimes too...you do have an identity outside being a mom and anyone who says your life has to revolve around children is wrong...your children need your love, nurturing and guidance but so do you, its not selfish to have some respite from your job as a mother...once a week go to the spa if you can, just some coffee with a friend, have a babysitter come in once a week or put your son in a daycare once a week to get used to being around other children

and dont worry about limiting yourself becuase he is a whiner, do things anyway...hes a small child, if people have a problem with it, too bad, go shopping, go for walks, take him somewhere he's never been or you've never been...find one small new exciting thing to try every day, its hard once ur in the routine of monotony, i try to balance being a SAHM and working from home at the same time, its so difficult

good luck