Daycare issue? Am I over reacting?

Question

I have a 3 1/2 month old son. I return to work on Tuesday of next week. My husband's mom said she was coming to take care of the baby but we haven't heard from her or seen her. She has no phone number or a car so we were going to get her a bus ticket so she could come stay with us. We still haven't heard from her. Meanwhile, I went and filled out an application for daycare. My son would start on Monday. I called today to confirm that everything was ok, and the daycare coordinator said she can't find my application. I have the receipt for the registration fee. So now, I have to go by there tomorrow and try to straighten that all out if it can be fixed. So, my husband says I'm over-reacting. But, I'm worried!! I don't want to leave my baby with strangers but I may have no choice and I may not even have that choice if things don't go through. I have to work b/c of money and finances. I just don't know what to do..I guess I'm venting. But am I over reacting?? :(

Answer 1

No ur NOT over reacting i wouldnt be happy with the GRANNY she shud of at least called u sum how...I think u shud maybe state this when u c her again as caused stress n anxiety

I would take the registration fee receipt with u tell the nursery u have paid it n DO NOT pay any more n make it clear in a nice way that this has been inconvenient so far as this was quality time wuth ur son b4 work

Answer 2

its completely understandable and normal to be nervous when it comes to choosing a caregiver of your child

if you havent heard from your mother in law then dont beat your self up about make alternate arrangements

when you have kids you have to always have plan A plan B and plan C

its actually better than trying to get things together at the last minute

take a deep breath and go back to the daycare with your receipt if they havent found your application i would get a refund that just shows how careless they can be and i wouldnt put my child there  

Answer 3

I'd rather send my child to daycare than to a babysitter I didn't know(not applying to your husbands mom, just saying that's a better choice) Day cares are generally safe, I mean, the news puts bad stories of kids dying, but that's only rarely, and it makes it seem like it happens all the time but it really doesn't

Answer 4

every mom wants their child to be safe and wants to always be right by them to make sure that happens. maybe your over reacting but what mother doesnt when shes parenting her children. So to your questions, your not really over reacting and if you were, your just like the millions of other moms so I would call it normal reacting not over reacting  

Answer 5

I do not think you are over reacting at all.  Make sure which ever day care you take him to is some where you feel completely comfortable.  If they cannot keep your papers organized, how much can you trust them?  I might just be saying this because I am a mom, but no, I would feel the same way.  Keep looking if you need.  

Answer 6

If they could misplace my application for daycare, how in the h**l are they gonna properly care for my child.  I would work a shift opposite of my husband so one of us would always be with the baby, until I could find a responsible day care provider.

Answer 7

Everything will be fine just keep a close eye on your baby. Do you have a friend that could watch the baby for you or another relative that you trust? Im sure if it is a registered day care then they will take good care of your baby.  

Answer 8

You're a new mother, very new mother.  you are not over reacting.  take tomorrow to get everything worked out and stay a while to watch things.  talk to other parents at the daycare see how they like it.  everything will be fine.  Let your husband deal with his Mother.  That is not your job.

Answer 9

Why do you have to return to work full-time.  While living in Israel we had a little girl.  Since we both worked for the government, we had to put her in the daycare everyday, all day (starting at 6 mos.)  It broke my heart.  One of the major reasons we returned to the States was because I knew that I wouldn't have to put my child with strangers everyday, all day.  My daughter did go to half-day pre-school (starting at 3 years old).  Please I'm begging you, stay with your child, now is when he needs you, not at 15.  If it is a matter of money, have faith that if you do the right thing, G-d will help you.

Answer 10

No, you are just scared about your son and you want the best for him. You are just being a good mother, as all mom's want their children to be as safe as possible. Hope you find a good daycare and babysitter!

Answer 11

I understand this can be frustrating but I can honestly say hand on my heart that nursery's isn't that bad. It will be hard and I understand you don't want to leave them with stranger however I've worked in two nurseries and believe me they do the best by your children. They make sure that you feel comfortable with leaving your child with them. ( I dunno where you are from.) In U.K nurseries they give your a children an introduction they bring your child in for a short while then you take him away and then come back bring him n for a short time during the play session and then they see how he goes and then you'll be able to leave him. I assure you sometimes nursery is the best place for children as it makes them more social and less wary of children when they go to school. It also prepares them for school and they make friends and they might even find friends that are going to the same school as them which also makes it easier.  

Answer 12

You have every right to be worried! if they lost your application what makes you think that there not going to loose you son? try finding a different family member that can watch him, or if that's not an option try looking for a babysitter or another daycare

Answer 13

no, i dont think ur over-reacting what's so ever. i just think ur husband is under-reacting.

Answer 14

not at all.  how are you suposed to trust these people with the care of your child when they cant even keep their paperwork straight?  you can never over react too much when it comes to your kids.

Answer 15

You are worried for a reason.  Did you check out this daycare before you enrolled him?  I don't know what to say if you really need to work like if the bank is going to forclose on your home or the baby will starve or something then I guess you have no choice, but really I think most people who say they "need" to work really mean they want the extra money.  If it were me I would wait on the daycare.  As for your mother in law, I'd be worried there too.  Maybe something happened to her.  Can you call a neighbor to go check on her?

Answer 16

of course your not over reacting. I would be in a panic too. Do you have neighbors that possibly could use a few extra dollars to babysit for you?  

Answer 17

stay home until you get it all worked out.  work is always available, but taking care that your son is well tended to is your first priority.  

Answer 18

I would say no your not that is in the best interest of your son and I would find out what is going on first before I do any thing.

Answer 19

I'm not a mom or a dad, But I can tell you that nothing is more important than your child, but if you have to work to provide for yourself and your child, then that is more important.  Take al ook at your priorities, which matters more.  And if its a daycare, chances are they will take care of your kid just fine.  And if not, beat the h**l out of them.

:D

Answer 20

I would be pissed if they lost my application to because that determines if you child had a spot at that daycare. No application no spot? But as long as you have the receipt than all they should have to do is have you fill out more paper work. "Hopefully they take care of children better than they file"

Answer 21

i dont think ure over reacting... you want 2 make sure ure son is in good hands... im 19 yrs old and i work in a daycare and the one i work in is good you just have 2 look at more then one...i love taking care of kids.... hey i would love 2 babysit ure son...:)

Answer 22

I don't really understand what the problem is, so I guess I think you are overreacting.   MIL said she would watch the baby but has apparently backed out...which in my opinion is a good thing because I wouldn't want someone watching my kids who had no phone and didn't drive.  So you did the right thing by getting some day care.  The day care couldn't find your application so you have to go fill out new one, just go do it.  I would bring up the fact that they lost your application and what kind of a message does that send about their day care and see what they say when you get there.  But try to calm down.  You can always change day cares if you are not satisfied.

Answer 23

No your not overreacting, all of us moms get very nervous when we put our child in daycare for the first time, especially if its your first child. You have a right to worry but don't let it over take you, it more than likely will be OK, There is nothing wrong with wanting our children to be OK. It will get easier I promise.

Answer 24

no you are not! my husband and i live with my parents for now that way i can stay home and dont have to leave my baby with a stranger!

Answer 25

No, I dont think you are over-reacting at all.  I wouldnt feel comfortable having my child in a day care that seems so unorganized!  If they are losing paperwork, how will they keep track of kids?  How will they know what special needs a child may need?

Answer 26

I know how you feel.  Leaving your baby is the hardest thing there is!  You want the best for him.  It's different for men.   Even though they love their baby, WE are the mothers, and it's different for us.  Keep looking and make sure you are giving your baby the best care there is and you can give him.  Good luck!  You are not overreacting!

Answer 27

It is probably just an oversight.  All moms go through this when they have to leave their kids at daycare.