Daycarewhy is it so scarry?

Question

ok so i finally get into a daycare system with my daughter but i have been home with her for 6 months and i was always with her and now the one day shes away at daycare i get scared because i keep checking her crib to see if she is ok and its just really scarry cuz i get bad nightmares. im doing my schooling so i need to have her in daycare but does anyone else get these fears? it just scares me that they might not know what there doing...

Answer 1

well i think thats common with all parents, no one can take care of your child like you can, and theres always just the fear that something Might happen!

Answer 2

Don't worry mama it's normal, we can't help but worry about our babies.  Good for you for juggling your classes and being a great Mom.  I will be leaving my little one in a couple of months as well and I have terrible anxiety about it, but I know that it will be harder on me than on her and that it will be OK.  You need to trust your day care provider and as time goes on your anxiety will become less.

Answer 3

It's scary because you are putting your child in the care of people you do not know, at all.  That and daycare workers are notoriously underpaid, especially at center type daycares.  When you don't make much you tend not to care that much about your job.

Answer 4

Children get seperation anxioty and so do parents.  You've been with her 24/7 and now she isn't there.  It's perfectly normal for you to feel this way.  It WILL get better.  In the mean time, try this...

1.  Call the daycare "just to check".  Try to limit your calls to once a day, but any good day care should be fine on giving you can update on what your child is doing.

2.  Pick your child up early.  They won't be expecting you, so you can see what they do during the day.  It will make you feel better when you aren't with her.

3.  Keep a picture of your child with you, or next to your desk.  Whenever you start to worry, just look at the picture.

4.  Have your child leave you a message on your voice mail, so you can call it during the day and hear them talk.  Even if its just giberish it will bring a big smile to your face when you are down.

Good Luck... it will get easier!

Answer 5

Of course we have a maternal instinct to care for our children.  Are you confident in your daycare?  My son was basically home with me for 7 months, and then I had to go to work so he had to go to daycare.  I found an in-home daycare I was really comfortablke with and he loves it there.  Knwoing he was in good hands helped to settle me.  If you don't feel comfortable with that daycare find another, go visit and see how they are with the kids.  Ignore what some people say, there are many good positive loving daycares who take care of kids like their own.

Answer 6

all day-cares are nice, they watch after every  child and they take care of them(feed, nap time, and bathroom) that is why day-care was invented and it will be hard the first few weeks. but then it will become an routine. and it will get easier and when she comes home she is all yours.