Dead beat Baby Daddy!!..Help!?

Question

Okay my ex and I have a child together..Her B-day is coming up soon. She is very exicted, and has been telling everybody about her party. I called him to let him know to give me some money for the party. His reaction was "Why does she have to have a Party every year"?..Keep in mind this is her first party since she was 1. She is older now and I wanted her party to be special, but need a little extra cash. And Besides that..He says he doesnt want to come to the party cause we are not together anymore...What is up with him???.. I mean this is his child?..Please HELP!!

Answer 1

He sounds like a useless person. The sooner you stop expecting him to be at all useful, the easier things will probably be. You can't make a responsible father out of someone who doesn't want to be one, especially since you are not even in a relationship anymore.

Answer 2

You should have spoken to him about it before it was mentioned to the daughter. Not just asking for money but, "hey I was thinking of having a party for ..... Your welcome to come, any chance you would be able to help me out ? Its all about the approach to a man.  Do not  rely on him nor blame him as your daughter has been telling everyone as you should of had it sorted not saying its ok for him but we cannot comment to much as we dont know the rest of the situation! she can still have a great party and special with a bunch of close friends and family,  

Answer 3

Did you call him to invite him, or just to "let him know to give [you] some money"?

Answer 4

I don't think you had any right to ask him for money for a party, even his own child's birthday party. If you had asked for money for clothes or food for your daughter, that's very different, you have every right to ask for money for those type of things.

I also don't think he should get upset about her having a birthday party. Is he invited? If not, then that is most likely why he doesn't want to help pay for it. Sounds like he is just being selfish and immature. Just move on, and take care of your daughter the best you can, she doesn't need negative people in her life. If he can't even be an adult and show up to his own daughters birthday, he's the one with problems.

Best of luck.

Answer 5

Try to explain to him that this is important to your child and that she really wants  to have this party and that she also really wants him to be there. I hate when men think that just because your are no longer in a relationship their relationship with their child ha sto change too. If you tell him how important it is to your child and he still has a problem decrease the party expenses a little she will be happy with whatever you do and forget him. Because sometimes us woman have to do things for ourselves.

Answer 6

You shouldn't call him for money.  You shouldn't call him at all.  He doesn't have your daughter, so why should you call him?  He should call you.  You can't force a man to be a father.  Some of them have it, and some of them don't.  He don't.  I know it's sad, but it's a realization you'll have to come to terms with.  If you need money, file for child support.  A man with a child should be sending money to the home, if he needs somebody in a black robe to tell him to take care of his kids then so be it.  For shame.