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Deal with it and stay or Run?

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So, I've been with my now fiance for 2 yrs we've lived 2gthr 4 a while. He's caring and says that he wouldn't leave me and hasn't cheated.

Problem is recently I found out he was dating his ex two months after we were "offical"!

We went through the long distance thing. All was great until I came back and he told me his bestfriend (a girl) slept over his apt and they kissed. . ."but nothin happened" He admitted he thought I was going to go away and find s/o else! Even though I told him otherwise! One day he let me check his e-mail for an e-mail his mom sent him. . . I saw plenty of alerts for "new s**y compatible match in your area" . Turns out he had a web page on an adult swingers site with the headline "Ready for Action" looking for 1 on 1 discrete s*x and was discussing a fantasy with some lady. I asked him about it and he denied having anything to do with it! There was a pic on it of us only he cropped out the part w/ me on it!

Anywho, we've been arguing a lot lately about pointless things and he gets into punching-wall-fits-of-rage. We are suppose to get married.

Marry him or leave?

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LEAVE WHILE YOU CAN HE MAY BE AN ABUSIVE HUSBAND AND IS IN HIS EARLY STAGES
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HELLO

Do you really have to ask?

Adult swinger sites?

"ready for action"?

"discrete s*x"?

Was dating someone else while you were away?

"nothing happened"?

You know the answer to your question before you posted it my dear.

Get out before you catch a STD or those punching-wall fits turn into a punching-you fit of rage.

Marriage is about complete trust and commitment.

ANY doubt at all means you don't get married.

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he hasn't cheated??????  ya, right!!!

he's caring????  right!!!!

you want to know if you should get married or leave???  you should definitely ................

LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE.did you get all that????  did you hear clearly??? leave leave leave!!!!!!!!

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Leave. He doesn't sound very commited, if hes READY FOR ACTION. Think about all the little signals hes sent you. How do you know he will be faithful when you get married?
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Take these as warning signs and run. He has the qualities of a loser. You can do so much better. Be glad you did not find these things out after you got married. You need a relationship full of honesty and faithfulness. You not going to get that from him. Good luck girl!
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Well, It's your choice....but...

I would say leave him, cause if he kissed his best friend and has his profile up on a dating website. Then he seems like the cheating type.

You need to find someone that will be a gentlemen to you and treat you right and not break your heart.

  Me and my Gf are in a long Distance relationship and we both are happy. Most guys when there wife/gf  lives or is far away.  They probably want to party or make out with other girls.  But I know im not the only guy  so you need to find a guy who will miss you and wait for you to come back....If I can't talk to my gf with in a day...I feel sad..but I always find a way to talk to her :)   ...but it's really up to you on what you want to do.....if you stay with him you may get your heart broken even more or find someone else who will treat you right..
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RUN and don't look back!
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simple. leave. He isn't mature enough to tell his problem, and throwing tantrums is making him look worse. Putting up a pic on that website says that he wants to cheat.
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You can't trust leave him save yourself some heartache.
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leave and never look back. it will only get worse so why put your self through the heartache.
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