Dealing with Family Relationships

Question

We have begun to discuss the holiday plans with my family. I live on the other side of the country and must fly home to spend time with the family. My sister lives out of state from my parents, but still in driving distance (6 hours.) My parents have requested that I fly to my sister's home instead for the holidays. Unfortunately, I suffer from depression and the last time I was at her home I experienced strong setbacks. (we do not have the healthiest relationship) I know that I cannot spend the time in my sister's home because I do not have the space or control I need for my mental health. My parents are rather insistent on me flying to her home but despite my pleas I cannot have them see my side. How do I get them to realize that I want to be with my family but need to also take care of my mental health?

Thank you for your help.

Answer 1

Here are some of my ideas,

well if your family already knows that you cant deal with it and still insist you go, then give up on trying to make them understand. It is sometimes useless trying to get through to family.

You can get out of having to go by

a. coming down with a pretty gross flu that doesnt go away.

b. saying you cant get out of work

c. you can lie now and say you have had some major financial setback (car breaking down it costs 2 grand to fix) and that you cant afford to make the trip.

you get the idea..

or just make the trip and  book a hotel near your sisters house  and tell them you absolutely have to have to have your own space. You dont want to take up space in her home or have anyone hassle over you..

eh, I hope some of these ideas helped.