Dealing with a "best friend" ?

Question

me and my best friend have been friends for 8 years. me and my bf have been togethr for 8 almost 9 months. me and my bf havent gone all the way yet but he wants to and i want to too but i wsnt totally sure cuz my cousins 16 and she just got pregnant. i told my best friend thinkng she wld help me but instead she startd screaming at me calling me a w***e and a s**t and telling me my bf made me the w***e i am. i cldnt even speak i was so susprised that she wld do this to me, again ( she thought i slept with her bf like 2 months ago, but i ddnt). i have no idea why she startd flippn out on me lke that.

i need help. shes been a ***** lately because iv been with my bf alot. shld i just cut her loose and stop talking to her ? idk if i wnna jst throw away the 8 years weve been friends.

please help !?!?!?!?

Answer 1

Don't cut her loose. A best friend for eight years can never be replaced by a boyfriend. If you feel like you have to choose, choose your best friend. She's probably feeling a little ditched now that you have a boyfriend, and she is just upset about it. If I ever thought I might have s*x, I would actually want my friends to scream at me to knock some sense into me. She just cares about you and wants whats best. You never know how long you and your bf will last, but friensds like that will last forever.

Answer 2

That was a very disrespectful thing your friend said to you, but she was probably saying those things to protect you from getting hurt.

Guys are jerks. They will use girls just to have s*x.

Your friend probably doesn't want you to be one of those girls.

My advice is, don't have s*x. Knowing him for 9 months is not long enough to start going in the bed with him. You should never have s*x before marriage. It's against God. But its' your life and do what you think is right.

And your friend doesn't control you and neither does your boyfriend.

You make your own decisions. :)

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Answer 3

I'm not for one minute saying you are, but maybe she feels like you have been neglecting her for your boyfriend. If this is this case then this whole thing has probably been eating away at her for the duration you've been going out with your boyfriend. It sounds like it has just came to a head now. She's let it out.

Maybe from now, you should keep you 'n' your boyfriend and you 'n' her a totally separate thing. Try to spend more time, quality time with her to repair any damage that has been caused. And don't try to talk to her about issues with you 'n' your boyfriend. Even though you would never do such a thing, she maybe feels like she is being used. Prove her wrong.

Answer 4

i know what you mean, a similar thing happened to me. except it was something alot smaller - i started wearing eyeliner for goodness sake.

your friend probably just has strong opinions about s*x and so is expressing them. tell her why you want to do this with your boyfriend and that you want her support and why she thinks its so wrong.

some people take alot longer to warm up to the idea of having s*x or drinking..its like when youre little and you think that swearing is the worst thing in the world, then you get older and its not so bad.

she probs just needs to get used to the idea.

dont cut her out until she does something more terrible. calling you a s**t is pretty bad but im sure she overreacted.

goodluck.

Answer 5

dont cut her loose. you sed yourself that youve been best friends for 8 yrs &&that youve been with your bf a lot. maybe she just feels left out that you dont have that much time for her anymore. && the part that shes calling you a w***e and a s**t, i think shes just worried about you. if i were you, id sit her down && have a heart to heart talk with her

Answer 6

First try talking to her about it, and how it makes you sad she would think anything like that about you. Then, tell her you don't think you can continue to be friends if she doesn't respect you enough to listen to what you have to say.

I hope everything goes okay..