Dealing with criticism and the other hardships of getting cosmetic surgery...?

Question

I have a flaw. I'm sure we all do, but my flaw is a significant flaw. I don't really care to disclose what exactly it is, but it bites at my self-esteem and confidence significantly. It kills me. It doesn't let me live normally.

Anyways, I've been thinking about getting cosmetic surgery for this flaw. But there's a couple of things. Firstly, I'm afraid about how people will view me after I get this surgery. I naturally care a lot about what people think, and the last thing I would want is to be seen as "The kid who got the ______ surgery". My friends and family will probably all criticize me for it, and look down upon me.

Secondly, it's a dangerous procedure. I'm probably going to have to be in bed for a couple of months, and I won't be able to get out of bed for a while. This surgery isn't as simple as a nosejob.

So, my question to all those who have had cosmetic surgeries before - how do you deal with the criticism and the way people perceive you after you get the surgery done? Any tips or advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

Answer 1

I think that after you have it you will be extremely happy and that if your family / friends value you, they will be happy for you.  I mean, look at your opening line:  Ã¢Â€Âœ. . .  it bites at my self-esteem and confidence significantly.   It kills me. It doesn't let me live normally. “  Enough said.  There should be no reason for you to feel this way if there is a remedy.

Additionally, even though you do not go into too much detail about what type of surgery it is, cosmetic/plastic surgery, in comparison to other surgeries actually is not dangerous.  (There is about a 1% chance of infection, and a 1 in 53,000 chance of mortality).

Criticism?  What’s that?  I have had body contouring (lipo) and I absolutely LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the results.  There was never any criticism!  On the contrary everyone thought it looked fabulous and told me what they would change on them if they had the money, time, etc.

Life is short.  Think about it.  We read it often, but do we digest it?  Ã¢Â€ÂœLife is short” - that is so true.  Why not go through it looking as best as you can and feeling happy with yourself?!?

In as far as the 'hardships' - those ARE to be taken into consideration.     Of these, the most important are:

Your expectations I:  Do you anticipate improvement, or perfection? If you expect cosmetic surgery to turn you into a movie star, you're bound to be disappointed.  If you expect it to correct something that you are unhappy with then GO FOR IT.  

Your expectations II:  Do not expect your surgery to save a rocky relationship, gain a promotion or improve your social life.    If you are in the midst of a very stressful life circumstance, such as a divorce, job loss, death of a loved one or an uncontrolled mental illness, you may want to postpone it.  

Consider the time and expense.  Although cosmetic surgery does not have to be expensive, see link below, most cosmetic surgery isn't covered by health insurance.

Recovery takes from a day to weeks.  Understand the psychological and physical effects that may be part of the healing time, and how the surgery may affect you.  Do you have someone to watch you for a few days after surgery?  Can you get enough time away from your job?

The closer you work with your surgeon to establish specific, measurable and achievable goals before surgery; and the more open and honest you are with friends and family in regard to what YOU want for your life, the more likely you are to be HAPPY with the results.

Answer 2

Last month my cousin got cosmetic surgery and she's really happy with the results. In my state a there are certain cosmetic surgeons that are better than others. I'd consult cosmetic surgeons in your area and see what they have to offer. http://www.plasticcosmeticsurgerycenter.... A local cosmetic surgeon should be able to answer your questions.

Answer 3

ok i never liked to idea of cosmetic surgery, but my sister wanted to get a nose job, and she decided to do it one day. and you know what i'm happy that she did.  she was always pretty and i thought she knew that, and she did but now she's more comfortable infront of strangers.  

its your choice if you want to tell people your getting it done, or pretend nothing changed.  and when people ask you say i don't know what your talking about, you'll both know that your lying but it's a nicer way of saying mind your own f-ing business.

can you give me some advice

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