Dealing with death of child?

Question

I know this might seem odd, but my husband works with a father who just his only child, a two year old boy, on sunday in a freak accident. My daughter is six months younger than him, we had discussed taking the kids to the park together and never seem to be able to find the time we could all get together. I never met the mother or the two year old boy, i have met the father on occasions i have taken my husband lunch on a few different occasions. Ever since i heard that the little boy died i have been a wreck. Over a child i never met. Maybe it's guilt for never having gotten the chance to take the kids to the park like was talked about or the fact that he was a healthy active child who just had his life ripped away so quickly. Should i be feeling this bad and this upset about something like this?

Answer 1

Your feelings are justified.  Don't feel guilty about feeling "guilty".  That is very sad, I can only imagine how it must feel.  We did lose a child of our own, a few hours after his birth.  The pain is.....greater than words.  What meant the most to us is when people sent us something meaningful.  Try to enroll the child in a star registry, or have a mass in his name, anything that will give them something to hold on to.

Answer 2

It is always a tragedy when someone with so much ahead of them leave this world. It's ok to be sad. Send a nice sympathy card and maybe some flowers, bring them some food (if you plan on visiting them), and offer an ear whenever they need to talk.

Answer 3

first i am sorry to hear that;/its so normal to sympathise with the family,after all you have a child the same age ,i havent been on that side of the spectrum before i lost my daughter,the greif of losing my daughter, still hasnt even really lightened up and its been 4 years.

Answer 4

Your probably just a real sweetie and are literally feeling the pain that these parents are feeling.The thought of loosing my kids just makes me cry on the spot.

When things like this happen its so horriable and sad but we have to remeber that god wanted his little angel to come home.I know it doesen't make it better but there is a little comfort in that.

I feel sad and I don't even know you so I would say it is normal.Just be grateful for what you have and take comfort knowing that ,that sweet little baby is in a happy and safe place.

You are all in my prayers.