Dealing with his ex-wife who steals?

Question

They share custody, she steals the children's clothes (bought by us) that she likes, jackets, shoes, coats, hats. They are sent back in ragged replacements. How does one deal with that kind of thing? (preferably without a lawyer)

Answer 1

Put the rags back on them when they go back to her house.

Answer 2

Dont ever put rags on your children, its not their fault, thats c**p. If you pay alot for their clothes then just buy them some cheaper ones to wear over there, keep the nice ones for home. If someone is going to deal with her leave it up to him. You will just look like the jealous wife

You also cant leave the responsibilty to the kids! Do you expect them to go against their mother?

Answer 3

Why dont you ask where the clothes are, Tell her after all that's why we buy the new clothes is because you always you keep sending the children over in rags,threaten her with the   Social Services, tell her that you are going to call s.s. and let them that she is not keeping the kids in good and clean clothes, I hope that you keep the reciepts from the clothes, if you do you have proof to  show Social Services, If you dont want to do that, than send the children home in the same clothes that they came in.  Just give the new clothes at your home.

Answer 4

my cuz went thru the same thing, he bought his daughter nice clothes and sent them back with her and the next time he saw her she had on clothes that she had outgrown and her new ones were at home.

buy your kids the clothes and keep them in a closet at your house. if she sends them back in rags, wash them, put them up, and before they go home havethem change into the old clothes again,

but your husband should talk to her. obviously clothes arent free and shes taking advantage of his good parenting skills and keeping his kids well clothed.

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Answer 5

Tell the kids that what their mother sends them home in to wear back over there and to wear the stuff you bought back to your house.

If you don't want them wearing rags thrifts stores have lots of nice clothing for very good prices that is where i get all my clothes and all my children's clothes from.

Say look I understand that you like the clothes that we send them in can you do us a huge favor and return them. We can't afford to buy them any more clothing and would hate to have nothing for them to wear at school or church or at play. We are more than willing to return all the clothes you sent them here with but please can you return the clothes we sent them in to you to us so they have some clothes over here. Thank you very much. {By the way you and your husband should say this as a team}

Answer 6

Take pictures of the clothes and the kids in them after you have them with you, as for her taking them, is she dressing the kids in them anyway? If so, then there is really no problem since they were for the kids to begin with, just wash and return the kids in the set they had on when they came to you and keep the others home with you for them to wear.

As for her, just tell her that you know what she's doing and that two can play that game.

Answer 7

Call her out about it. confront her. why would she give them rags to put on. ask her does she dress like that. and tell her if we send them with whatever they should return with the same whatever you sent them with! Deadbeat mom! Don't they SUCK!!!

Answer 8

if the ex-wife is that thick face I don't know if being civil about it will work or talking to her will work..sometimes you got to sacrifice something to straighten out somebody or a situation.

Tell her that since she got the children clothes maybe next time you will send naked children (kiddin actually), yeah! i am quite drastic with my means but it actually work you know...i am really firm about it...

the ex-wife acts like the smart jackass that she is because you allow it on the first place because you are considering the kids feelings, kids ect, kids etc. As the biological mother to the kids does she ever think about the kids?!! With this question answered try to sort a smart way to outwit her

Answer 9

Sounds like a vindictive woman, and i honestly wouldn't give her the chance to fix the problem without a lawyer involved.  

But if you do want to go that route, just let her know that you are onto her, and do not involve the children.  let her know that if she continues to do it, than you will involve a lawyer.  

Answer 10

Tell your concerns to your husband.  He needs to handle his ex-wife, not you.