My husband and I are currently in the process of adopting a child. For the most part, people are very supportive of our decision, which is great- especially our families. However, sometimes even well meaning people we talk to say some insensitive, or rather, uninformed things and I have a difficult time avoiding defensive feelings. I know that these comments, such as, "It's great that you're adopting, but there is really nothing like having your own child", or "It's great that you're adopting. Do you think you will try for a biological child next?", aren't meant to hurt my feelings. They are just uneducated about adoption. Somehow, I still feel hurt by them, and the other person generally has no idea, unless I challenge what they say. Are there any other adoptive mother's out there dealing with the same thing, and if so how? It's amazing how protective I am over someone I have never met yet! How can I educate people that adoption is not second best? Thanks!
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