Dealing with my manipulative sister......

Question

I am 21 and my sister is 26. During my childhood and teen years, I admired her very much and did whatever she wanted me to do, no questions asked, whether it was something in my own life or for her. I've recently began doing things my own way. I'm growing more and more into my own person. She isn't happy with this. If I have an opposing opinion or do something that she doesn't approve of, even if it isn't wrong, she says that I'm trying to prove myself, when it's not the case at all. I just no longer feel as though I should hold my tongue if I feel mistreated and I need to lead mt own life. many times, after an argument, I've apologized, just to keep the peace, only to think about it later and speak to other family members about it, and realize that she was actually wrong all along. I've always thought that she's wanted the best for me, but looking back, she has turned everything into a competition. She gives backhanded compliments often. She wants to control my life, and I'm not having it. I can't even state my honest opinions without her getting angry, yet she never bites her tongue.

I've realized that she is very,very manipulative and, for years, I've fallen for it. It seems as though everyone has realized what type of person she is, but me. They just say "That's the way she is", and let her be. She craves attention so much. She doesn't keep friends for very long and she and I have both wondered why. Now I know why.

I don't like the person that she is. I will continue to be myself and live my life, but how do I deal with this?? It's come to the point that I don't even want to be near her because we clash so much. Please help.

Answer 1

You are comletely right chose your way and fallow it  

Answer 2

Ugh, my sister and I are only a year and a half apart and she's exactly the same way. She always acts so superior to me and is really authoritative like a mother figure. I cant stand it, but without even thinking about it I always respect her decisions and stuff. I don't want to be like that though, cause just because she's the big sister and thinks she knows better doesn't mean she's always right. The only thing different is that I'm the only one who knows how she really is. Everyone else thinks she's an angel, and it pisses me off. I love my sister and I'll be there for her if she's in a rut, but I wouldn't befriend her if she was a random person at school. The only think you can do is stand up to her and assert your own authority unto yourself. I've made many failed attempts to do that but I'll keep trying and she'll realize one day.

Hope I helped! ;]

Answer 3

Just realize how she is and avoid her as much as possible; when you cannot avoid it and she pulls that old c**p on you just look at her and walk away from her. Do not engage her in a battle of words because she won't stop and you'll just be feeding her sickness. The less you say the better because no matter how logical and reasonable you are she will twist your words and turn on you so any words will lead to an argument; ergo, say nothing as much as possible.

Answer 4

My sister seems to be the same way. She is always on a power trip, and if she doesn't have it her way, she will fully let the entire family know that she ain't having it that way. We just learned to ignore her when she starts to become demanding, and she is finally beginning to realize that she doesn't have us wrapped around her finger anymore. Just live your life the way you want, and soon she will realize that she can't push you around anymore.