Dealing with nervousness. please help!

Question

i get really nervous for parties and spending the night at people's house even my grandma's / i feel so trapped. i just want to stop feeling this way. what should i do? is their any counseling where i can talk to girls & guys that feel the same way as me?

thanks !

Answer 1

i used to be like that. i would start hyperventilating and stuff. i took a debate and a speech class where u had to go up against people and do speeches and stuff. i was so scared that i wanted to pass out and i would delay it as long as possible. i know its not exactly like parties and stuff but its worse. i just took depe long breaths and would say it will be over soon. its all in ur head just be like i can do this its not a big deal and you should calm down and feel different. dont stress to much it will be ok :)

Answer 2

it hard to deal with such topics but if you relax and cool you can make it

Answer 3

If you are going to school, go talk to your school counselor!  They are sure to provide you some good resources and/or point you to some helpful counselors in your area.

If you aren't going to school, counseling can be spendy.  Look for online support groups regarding social anxiety. (Anxiety is that nervousness you feel).

There are many cognitive behavioral techniques you can try on your own.  You can purchase a book on amazon, or even check one out at your local library.  There are resources online with cognitive behavioral exercises as well.

Good luck!!  You will find the relief you need.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like you are suffering from social anxiety as well as anxiety attacks (or panic attacks). One of the hallmark features is that you feel trapped in social situations, where it would be impossible or embarrassing to flee from the situation. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is known to work wonders for these conditions, and there are medications that can help as well. There are many communities on the web that are dedicated to anxiety and panic, and I have found them to be incredibly helpful with my own problems.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

If you go to a party, stick with a friend.

When you stay at your grandma's enjoy the attention you are getting.

Bring something to do that you enjoy doing.

Remind yourself that it is only for one night if this is the case.

If you are feeling trapped, go outside and play.

If you are interested in going to therapy, maybe you could find a group you can join.  Mental Health Centers do have group therapy.

Maybe you can look into this.  Good Luck.