Dealing with new family?

Question

hi.i'm 16 years old and my parents divorced when i was about 14. I'm still pretty upset about the divorce after all this time. Now my mom is seeing some guy. They've been going out on and off for the past year and a half. He's really nice and really cares about me and my mom. He has three kids around the same age as me. And everytime we go out people say we look like the brady bunch. Everything is perfect but i'm sick of it. I love my dad and i cant picture having another one. and now all of a sudden these kids are acting like their my family when i dont even know them. I feel guilty because my mom is so happy but im not ready to move on to another family. My family already has problems by ourselves. What should i do?

Answer 1

Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for the ones that we love.

When you get married someday you will understand that not everything works out as planned.

Your parents could not work out their differences, and it sucks, but it is the way it turned out.

Would you want them to stay together and be unhappy just to make you feel better?

I am sure that you love them enough to consider their feelings as well as your own.

Both of your parents deserve to be happy, and if that means with other people...so be it.

You should feel grateful that she found a nice man with nice kids.

She could have found some mean jerk who did not care about you...who had mean kids who you could not stand.

The new guy can never replace your dad, and I am sure that he does not want to be him.

He just wants to be happy with your mom & you.

You should give him a chance.

Count your blessings.

Best wishes

Answer 2

Tell your mom how you are feeling.

Then try and just get to know the other kids eventually everything will work out, you just need to let it and be yourself, and love your family.  

Answer 3

he is not going to be your new father he is going to be your mothers husband....  as far as his kids go,,, try to like them they didn't do anything to you,,, no one did.

if you are missing your dad, go see him and stop taking your attitude out of others that have nothing to do with your problems!!!

Answer 4

it's normal to feel like this.

i don't always like my stepfather and he's been around since i was four. 'cause that's when my parents separated.

but i mean i like that they aren't together.

i don't want my dad with another woman because there's not a woman on the planet who deserves him.

but my mom has three kids with my stepfather.

just let your mother be happy. because if she's happy then you're happy.

trust me.

you'll get used to it... and you may not always like it but she deserves to be happy. i'm sure she does a lot for you.

and if the man and his kids are nice to you then everything should be okay.

he isn't your father and he never will be.

and i'm sure he knows this. but if he doesn't realize it then you need to tell him.

but if he moves in, he does turn into the man of the house.

it's not like that in my house cause my mother is extremely dominant.

but i mean don't make it seem like he's trying to replace your father.

they're not family biologically but they are in your life.

just relax. things might not be so bad. it's just going to take some getting used to.

give it a chance.  

Answer 5

First All families have issues or problems

Second you should go talk w/ your Dad about your feelings because a lot of this may just be that you feel bad for him because you may feel better after talking w/ him

Third NO ONE will ever replace your Dad but just know that you have more people that love you plus if some of the kids are girls you all can share clothes etc

I would just think of it as having friends to do stuff w/ whenever you feel like hanging but your other friends can't do stuff

Answer 6

Its hard having to have a new family when your so use to the one you previously had. Its a hard change, I know. Your heart wants what thinks its right. Its okay that you still love your dad, its natural that you would since he IS your real father. But look at your mother. She is so happy. You might want to consider coping with this new family and make your mom a happy women. You see, she was the one who went threw the divorce. Imagine her pain in what happened? she seeks happiness. You shouldent block that from her, yet you both should agree on what you should be happy with. It will be hard, bu try to feel good with this family. No matter what tho, you will always have a true family.